Posted 02 April 2010 - 11:54 AM
I'm going through the same thing. I originally was planning a wedding at home, but then the reality of the cost set in. When we decided to have the DW, all the crap talking started behind our backs. My mom was really disappointed and I can tell now she's only trying to put on a happy face about it. But that's OK, it's our wedding. This is what we really want. Yeah, I'm a little sad that not everyone that I would like to come will make it, but it's cutting out all the people that I would have had to invite out of obligation at home!
Don't think your being selfish..it's about you and your future husband!
Posted 02 April 2010 - 01:07 PM
Posted 14 April 2010 - 12:26 PM
Posted 14 April 2010 - 02:05 PM
Posted 14 April 2010 - 07:47 PM
Posted 14 April 2010 - 08:01 PM
Actually, I invited everyone I would have if I had an traditional wedding. My thoughts if you can make it see you there if not be with us in spirit. That covered anyone feeling left out. Funny...when I asked a couple of people for their address they refused because they said they wouldn't come anyway. I also heard the selfish comments.
Nonetheless, my humble opinion when they have negative feedback is "WHATEVER" It's your wedding and not theirs...I have even told someone if you are not contributing financially - I don't want to hear your opinion. I know that sounds mean but sometimes you have to shut down the negative comments.
I love the idea of requesting $$$ when people ask why.
Posted 15 April 2010 - 08:29 AM
Fortunately my family has been very supportive, my Dad things wearing shorts and a Hawaiian shirt to a wedding is the best thing ever. FI dad... Well, he started off a little reluctant. We got the selfish comment and that we were forcing everyone to spend a week on an island when they would all much rather have it in VA or DC. Turns out no one else on that side felt that way, plus FI mom beat FI dad into submission so now everyone is on board.
The friends have been middle of the road. I think they all understand, but are disappointed they can't come. To defray the costs to our guests we are hosting a welcome dinner and a full day snorkel cruise, so we can only afford close family and best friends. I wish we could invite them all but it would quickly bust the reason for the small intimate wedding in the first place so I think we will have to come up with a fun and inexpensive way to do an AHR.
I hate to hear all the difficulties DW brides are facing, but glad to hear that everyone seems to be making it through just fine and are still happy with their decision.
Posted 15 April 2010 - 03:07 PM
Posted 15 April 2010 - 07:56 PM
| Originally Posted by MDLady |
VA_Bride - isn't it amazing that people say that we are "forcing people to spend a week on an island" like we are making them to into a military bootcamp in the middle of the Sahara dessert..... I wish I was forced to spend more time on the islands!!!!!!!
I am sure everyone will have a great time once you are there, they just have to get over the mindset against it. A couple of Pink Iguanas from Smokey Joe's and they will all be loving it.
Posted 16 April 2010 - 03:47 PM
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