Jump to content
Sign in to follow this  
hockeymom97

Today was a rough day…

Recommended Posts

Wow that is pretty heavy, so sorry to hear it. Is it silly to suggest having an intimate ceremony where your mom is so that she can be a part of your wedding? Even just a spiritual/non-legal union type of thing. Then one day when you feel up to it, you can go have the beach wedding she wants you to have. Hang in there :)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Wow, sorry to hear about your Mom. I choked up reading your post and can not imagine what you are going through. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Heather, my heart breaks for you. I am so sorry that you are facing such a difficult time with your mother's cancer.

 

I agree with starchild that perhaps you should consider doing just a small, quiet ceremony in which your mother can be present. I can sense that your mother being there means a lot to you, as it should, and that is why I think starchild has a great suggestion to you. Brain cancer is an evil thing, nothing a single person should have to face, even with a loved one being affected and not oneself. My uncle lost his battle to the evil only a little over a year ago. My cousin, a daughter of his, chose to rush her wedding in hopes that he could be there...he passed only a week before. I know it was such a struggle for her to go on with the wedding without her father there, as she was quite the "daddy's girl," but I think she realized it was what he would have wanted.

I don't tell you this trying to cause you pain, but to ask you to think about what is of the most importance to you. If it is that of your mom being there, consider the idea starchild brought forth. You can still have the beach wedding at a later date, and I--as I'm sure many--will be praying for you and your family, that your mom beats this and will be at your dream wedding.

Sending lots of love and prayers your way!!!smile03.gifsmile03.gif

Be sure to take care of you throughout this battle.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Heather, I am so sorry. You definitely did the right thing...be with your mom as much you can. You will have your wedding one day! I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

In the beginning of my wedding planning I was addicted to this site and was on here ALL the time. But when things started to get bad with my mom, I started to visit less. I guess I thought that coming on here would make me sad knowing that my wedding was probably going to be postponed, but now that I came back, I actually feel a little better :) I guess I forgot just how supportive you all are - so thank you so much for all the kind words and thoughts. I definitely appreciate it!! (((Hugs))))

 

 

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by starchild View Post
Wow that is pretty heavy, so sorry to hear it. Is it silly to suggest having an intimate ceremony where your mom is so that she can be a part of your wedding? Even just a spiritual/non-legal union type of thing. Then one day when you feel up to it, you can go have the beach wedding she wants you to have. Hang in there :)
No, it's definitely not silly and it is something we are considering. I know it would really make my mom happy to see us get married.

 

Quote:
Originally Posted by litl_april View Post
Heather, my heart breaks for you. I am so sorry that you are facing such a difficult time with your mother's cancer.

 

I agree with starchild that perhaps you should consider doing just a small, quiet ceremony in which your mother can be present. I can sense that your mother being there means a lot to you, as it should, and that is why I think starchild has a great suggestion to you. Brain cancer is an evil thing, nothing a single person should have to face, even with a loved one being affected and not oneself. My uncle lost his battle to the evil only a little over a year ago. My cousin, a daughter of his, chose to rush her wedding in hopes that he could be there...he passed only a week before. I know it was such a struggle for her to go on with the wedding without her father there, as she was quite the "daddy's girl," but I think she realized it was what he would have wanted.

I don't tell you this trying to cause you pain, but to ask you to think about what is of the most importance to you. If it is that of your mom being there, consider the idea starchild brought forth. You can still have the beach wedding at a later date, and I--as I'm sure many--will be praying for you and your family, that your mom beats this and will be at your dream wedding.

Sending lots of love and prayers your way!!!smile03.gifsmile03.gif

Be sure to take care of you throughout this battle.

I'm really sorry to hear about your uncle, and you are right, it is evil and I can't even imagine what your cousin went through with that happening just a week before her wedding. At first there was a part of me that said we shouldn't cancel just yet, and we can just hold on and maybe she'll still be able to make it....but we found out early enough that we were all able to cancel our reservations without losing our deposits. If we waited until the last minute and had to cancel closer to the wedding we may not have been able to get our money back. I think it's just safer this way. I'm sure we'll have our beach ceremony some day...and for now a small cermoney at home might just work out.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Oh Heather! sad.gif so sorry to hear your news. There's no words that can ease the sadness. But I say have a private, intimate, ceremony with your mom. Have the dances, cut a cake, and get great pictures. Hey! It'll help eliminate the paperwork required for your destination wedding!

 

In the end, you WILL have your destination wedding, and you will feel amazing knowing that you were beside your mum supporting her every step of the way.

 

Please keep us updated here. It seems funny that we can feel so close to someone just by seeing some of their posts here on the forum.

 

As you can see, you have many friends thinking of you here.

 

Thinking of you lots!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
Sign in to follow this  


  • Best Destination Wedding Sponsors



    Facebook Pinterest Google+ Twitter
  • Posts

    • How to login Hotmail? Today I am going to show you how to login to any Hotmail account on Desktop and Mobile. If you have a Hotmail account but you don’t know how to sign in Hotmail, this post helps you login Hotmail easy way with pictures. If you don’t have Hotmail account, of course, let Sign up Hotmail. And now, Here is how to sign in Hotmail.
       
    • I and my partner are going to get married on August 12th. We met each other through a lesbian dating website. Both of us want that day to be a memorable day. We are in confused on which dress to wear for the wedding ceremony. Any suggestion on lesbian wedding dress? I prefer white, whereas my partner prefers of-white. Which one do you think will look good? Should we go for same dress or different one? Share your thoughts.
    • Choose the flower that is matching with the bride and gown dress.
    • Hotmail gmail login: How to change your gmail password and how to delete your Gmail account? GMAIL is the most popular emailing service, with almost had a billion people worldwide logging on every day to check their emails. Google has recently added a number of new updates to make it easier to secure your Gmail, as well as safely deleting your email account. How do you change your password or delete your hotmail account?
    • Việc tìm kiếm một phòng khám bệnh trĩ uy tín sẽ giúp người bệnh giảm bớt được cơn ác mộng đối với căn bệnh này. Bài viết dưới đây sẽ cung cấp giúp các bạn một số những thông tin về phòng khám bệnh trĩ Thái Hà http://benhtrithaiha.com
  • Topics

×