Bridal showers and Registering

[Tennyt1]

Is it to much to have a bridal shower and register for gifts since our guest are all paying to attend our destination weddings. I don't know how to approach this one.

[TLC4Rock]

In my case, I have a lot of friends that will not be able to make the wedding and the shower is the only opportunity to share the joy. As of now, we are not having a AHR.

 

My hope is those attending the wedding will just come for the festivities! :-)

[tracy0716]

I think a registry is a good idea even if your having a DW. I'm in the same boat as TLC, many of our friends and family are not attending our wedding but some are still sending gifts. I don't expect gifts from guests attending our wedding but some of my aunts are insisting. We totally appreciate the gifts for our new home! Also, I'm not having a bridal shower but we had an engagement party and a lot of people bought us gifts from our registry. I think you should go for it!

[skadow]

I think its a good idea, plus I heard that sometimes people will go off those lists around Christmas times or holidays, Housewarming ect. Times when people want to get you a couples present ,but don't know what to get you.

 

I registered at Home Depot ( we just bought a house)

Crate and Barrel ( For people who like getting nicer gifts)

Target ( For Practical Gifts)

 

If you register for items with a different prices, people can buy what they feel is approprate. So you don't have to worry about feeling odd. Who knows, co-workers or parents friends might want to get you something too.

[Positanobride10]

I agree with the other ladies. I ended up registering and letting my mom's BFF throw me a shower even though I felt bad about it. Everyone said, you only get married once, enjoy it. I am trying not to feel bad about it and have a good time. Plus if you don't register people will buy you stuff you don't like/want, people want to help celebrate.

[JanineA]

We registered since alot of our guests will not be able to attend. (Invited 110, so far booked 30 but expecting end result of about 50). I am not having a shower, though I will be paying for me and my two bridesmaids to have a spa day once we get to our DW. Though guests are paying their way to our DW a lot of them insisted on me doing a registry. IMO I think you should do the registry, you never know who may be able to make it or not and leave it up to them to decide whether they want to get you something from it or not. Good luck!

[MDLady]

I didn't want to register at first since our guests had to pay for their own travel and rooms. But some of the guests who were not able to attend asked for a registry so I put together a small one at Macy's.

 

I just had my bridal shower this weekend and everyone brought gifts. Half of the people will not be at the wedding so I was happy with that. It was such a fun evening so don't stress too much. Those who cannot afford a big gift or any gift will bring a card or flowers or a nice bottle of wine.

[PrincssScorpion7]

I am sending out 100 invites. I think about 30-40 will show. My family still would want to send a gift if they can not come. I will register at Bed Bath and Beyond, Macys and maybe Crate and Barrel.

[KelZavs20]

do the registry! i did one because my mom is insisting on having a shower - and we havent heard any comments about doing it.

We have been very careful to be sure that no one feels (except our parents!) obligated to come to the dw....we've tried to make it have the feeling of "if you want to take a vacation - this would be a great time/place to do it" type thing....so its their choice!

[mnh1983]

Go ahead and register, especially for the people who cannot attend your wedding. I didn't even think anyone would throw me a shower, but a friend told me this week she would like to do it, so I'm glad I registered!