Posted 25 February 2010 - 04:42 PM
My FI is the type of person who doesn't want to deal with issues head on, so the counseling was hard for him at first, but he got used to it.
If people are having problems because of it, I think maybe it's because things are being said that normally wouldn't be under different circumstances.
The FI and I learned to communicate our needs, and I think that helped us the most.
Posted 25 February 2010 - 06:13 PM
Posted 26 February 2010 - 10:02 AM
We had to take an individual online quiz before we started the series- it detailed stengths and weaknesses in our relationship. I could always sense what we were less than great at but to have it in writing really helped.
The 1st lesson was a huge eye opener. We talked about expectations. What I expect from my husband and what he expects from his wife, what we expect from families, life, friends, of the household chores. It was pretty awesome.
The lesson on intimacy and sex is coming up in a couple weeks. I'm not really looking forward to that lesson. I've had some situations in the past that I've learned to cope with by putting up walls- especially when it comes to being intimate. I always knew that was an area we needed improvement in our relationship but to see how important it is to my FI and see how 'disappointed' he is with that part of the relationship really hurt a little but really makes me want to work through it more now that I know.
Posted 26 February 2010 - 11:22 AM
Posted 26 February 2010 - 12:05 PM
Posted 27 February 2010 - 01:04 AM
I'm actually going to start therapy by myself next week, and that will be a good way to feel for the process. After that, I may sign FI and myself up for couple's therapy.
Posted 27 February 2010 - 03:48 AM
Posted 09 March 2010 - 12:24 AM
Posted 10 March 2010 - 10:32 AM
Posted 02 June 2012 - 09:49 AM
Communication is the key, counseling helps with that so it's just a matter of "buying in"
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