Posted 18 February 2010 - 04:10 PM
Ugh, I am just really overwhelmed and upset and needed to vent.
Posted 18 February 2010 - 05:02 PM
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Posted 18 February 2010 - 06:24 PM
Posted 18 February 2010 - 06:51 PM
Posted 18 February 2010 - 07:28 PM
Ask them to work on specific things... a to-do-list. Also search on this site, someone posted a guide for what a BM and MOH should do to assist the bride.
if this does work fire them....just kidding...well if you want to! :-) If your budget allows hire a wedding coordinator. Not the site coordinators but someone that will travel with you and help you prepare for travel.
Anyway, just don't stress.
Posted 18 February 2010 - 09:24 PM
I do think that most people don't really know how to be a BM b/c every bride is so different. I honestly have not relied on my BMs for anything. My MOH has helped me w/ some research but that's b/c she loves wedding stuff, not necessarily b/c I needed her to do it for me.
I would second TLC's advice and either meet with or send an email to your BMs with very specific requests for help. I think most people respond well to clear instructions.
Also, what about getting your mom or FMIL to help? Is that an option?
OMG, as for your FSILs... put them in charge of the guest book!! LOL!
Posted 19 February 2010 - 06:50 PM
Posted 30 August 2010 - 01:35 PM
i included my fiance's cousin as a bm whom i had known for 10 years when me and my FI got engaged. She wound up moving out of state to be with a bad boyfriend and disregarded the commitment that she made to us. She eventually dropped out of my wedding and the trip all together via text message. Yes, text message starting with "i regret to inform you..." ( i wouldn't believe this myself had this not really happened!)
In short, we no longer speak. Its difficult cause she is a part of my FI's family. I have to say that while i didn't predict this I have to be glad that I found out about it prior to the wedding and with enough notice that it won't effect my day. (or that i wouldn't have to spend the energy photoshopping her out of my pics!! LOL ) I agree w lalanyc as to who you envision with you on that day. The bad eggs will rot themselves out!! good luck to you!
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