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going baby crazy and not even pregnant or close to being

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hi all..

 

I need to vent out of excitement..lol...weird i know....

 

check this out, we are getting married in 2 1/2 months and all i can think about is starting a family with my wonderful husband to be...normal in a way right?..

 

well my entire life, 26 years old now....i never wanted children,didnt like them, did not want one, just doggies :) suddenly we bought a house 2 years ago, and these urges start just poping in my head outa the blue...dreams every now and then..and then every so often..boom BABY thoughts would come and then it started becoming more and more frequent...to the point of now being obsessed with thinking of when we should start trying to conceive...thinking of names, deco, all of it......my fiance is totally aware of my baby craziness and is completely excited that I want children and cannot wait to start trying...by the way, i literally wake up in excitement, thinking of deco ideas or names....and cannot fall back asleep because I am so excited..helloooo im not even pregnant or even close to becoming pregnant.....

 

we have not really set a date on when we should start trying, but we cannot wait...... obviously my biological clock that everyone told me would soon kick in has done so, FULL BLOWN...

 

has anyone else gone through this? please share so I have someone else to talk to about these overwhelming thoughts going through my mind 24/7 :)

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I sorta went through this too, but a bit different. For as long as I can remember, I've wanted to adopt a child. For one thing, I think little Asian girls are super cute, and I really like the thought of giving parents and a loving family to an orphan. Also, I've NEVER wanted to be pregnant or give birth. Pregnancy was just not attractive at all to me, and I am not a baby person at all. They kinda scare me. I love children, but after they start talking. LOL

 

Well, around the same time we started talking about marriage, I started thinking about pregnancy. I knew my FI really wanted us to have a child of our own, but all of the sudden, I started wanted this too! Now I think pregnancy would be a wonderful thing to happen to me and I can't wait to start my little family with my future husband.

 

Oh, and it helps that he's Asian so I'm going to get to have my little Asian looking child after all. Plus, mixes are always so pretty. :-D

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I've had quite the opposite effect, sort of. I initially went through a stage in my early twenties where I didn't want to have children, couldn't find the idea of having children even remotely appealing. But then, I hit my mid-twenties to late twenties and all I could think about was having a baby (after I got married, of course). Especially, after I met hubby, I totally envisioned us having children together and being a family, and all the works.

 

Then, as we got engaged and closer to the wedding and then having the wedding, the more and more I think about having kids (we are now in our early thirties), I feel less and less like I want to have kids. I mean, I know I still want them, but it's no longer a burning desire anymore. Like if it doesn't happen naturally, then I wouldn't go out of my way to do in vitro or fertility programs or anything. I feel like I've gotten very comfortable with our way of life and the luxuries that we have and the freedom to do as we please and as much as I still want children, I feel like it's going to be a lot of work compared to our current life now.

 

Is this normal??

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I've had quite the opposite effect, sort of. I initially went through a stage in my early twenties where I didn't want to have children, couldn't find the idea of having children even remotely appealing. But then, I hit my mid-twenties to late twenties and all I could think about was having a baby (after I got married, of course). Especially, after I met hubby, I totally envisioned us having children together and being a family, and all the works.

Then, as we got engaged and closer to the wedding and then having the wedding, the more and more I think about having kids (we are now in our early thirties), I feel less and less like I want to have kids. I mean, I know I still want them, but it's no longer a burning desire anymore. Like if it doesn't happen naturally, then I wouldn't go out of my way to do in vitro or fertility programs or anything. I feel like I've gotten very comfortable with our way of life and the luxuries that we have and the freedom to do as we please and as much as I still want children, I feel like it's going to be a lot of work compared to our current life now.

Is this normal??
I think that's a normal way to feel. We really want children after the wedding, but if it doesn't happen naturally we won't be taking any extra measures. I'm excited, but also worried about the work and the lifestyle change. We're pretty used to just being the two of us, so it'll be a huge adjustment. It's normal to feel like that- probably healthy, too, because then you're prepared.

I have been feeling a bit baby crazy, though. My clock has been ticking big time- especially since we bought the house. We're finally ready and it's really exciting! The whole pregnancy thing itself doesn't appeal to me, though, so I guess that helps me from getting too hyped about it.

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I've had the same feeling. I never wanted kids. Never! One day, I wasn'tfeeling good, some friends started to joke around that I was pregnant. (I didn't think that I was, but took a test,just to be on the safe side. When it came upnegative I was heartbroken. This started the baby madness. We tried for a while with no luck.Recently I found out I have a cyst onmy left ovary.

 

We have since become engaged. (I know, I know, we weren't going in the right order.) but I'm kind of confused on what I should do.

I can start taking birth control and fix the cyst (also makes most women super fertile.)

Our wedding is almost a year away. So do I wait?... go for it now?... And what about the wedding if I do decide to do it now. ahh!

 

we both are ready for a baby, but it seemsbest to wait until after the wedding. Idon't really know.

Iunderstand completely aboutlosing sleep due to decor and names andeverything in between.

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i completely understand!! i've been baby crazy for several months now. we are not actively trying, but if it happens, it happens. we started this a while before we got engaged so now that the weddings on, i've been a bit more careful, he would be absolutely happy if it happend now but i tell him it's because he's not the one trying to fit in a dress lol!!

 

on a side note, i went to the gyn yesterday and told her how we feel about things. ive been off the pill for sometime and i told her i'm a little worried that nothing has happend yet... she said that once we get back from the wedding we should ACTIVELY try for 4 to 6 months and then come back in if nothing's happend yet. she also put me on prenatal vitamins just in case. she said that the best thing to do is once youre actively trying, to take notes of your cycle so that if, god forbid, you have to have medical help, your doc will have as much info as possilbe. i have this book called "taking charge of your fertility" and it sooo informative, even if you don't want children, every woman should read this book!! my co-worker got pregnant 2 months after using it!! clearly we're NOT using it to try yet but you could try this once you're really really ready :)

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Yes!!! the same thing is happpening to me!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we are getting marry december 1st, and I already ask my FI a millionnnn timesss if he wants to start trying to have a baby right after! classic answer: too soon! lol well it will happen when it has to happen.. but I feel the same way, I look at babies cloths, decorations, names, everything!!! just like you!!!!!

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I totally know how you feel!! I will turn 24 right before we get married, and I've always wanted 2-3 kids before 30! Crazy I know, but I'm terrified of being an older mom! Now that we are closer to the wedding fiance and have have agreed that we will start a family after our 1st year anniversary, We want to enjoy being married, although we've been together for 5 years already. It's very hard to shake baby thoughts, but I know that is important for us to spend that first year alone :)

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Well I always known I wanted kids, but about a year before my FI and I got engaged I was in total crazy baby mode. We also just bought a house and I already picked a room for the nursery. And we picked out names already! All I can think about are babies and I can’t wait to be pregnant (I’m not too excited for the birth though). Once we got engaged in Oct, it calmed down slightly. I am 28 and I always wanted 2 kids before I am 30, but unfortunately I know that won’t happen. We are going to wait about a year after the wedding for work/money reasons. I am more than ready, but the only thing holding me back is the money thing.

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Well I always known I wanted kids, but about a year before my FI and I got engaged I was in total crazy baby mode. We also just bought a house and I already picked a room for the nursery. And we picked out names already! All I can think about are babies and I canâ€t wait to be pregnant (Iâ€m not too excited for the birth though). Once we got engaged in Oct, it calmed down slightly. I am 28 and I always wanted 2 kids before I am 30, but unfortunately I know that wonâ€t happen. We are going to wait about a year after the wedding for work/money reasons. I am more than ready, but the only thing holding me back is the money thing.
second that!! I wanted 3 kids before 30 but i'll be 28 in oct so that's out the window!! lol

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