Posted 16 February 2010 - 10:40 PM
Posted 16 February 2010 - 11:24 PM
Posted 16 February 2010 - 11:34 PM
Anyway, just because you are having a destination wedding, doesnt mean that you can't have the same celebrations that every other bride does, especially if your family is so willing to throw you one. I think its a nice opportunity for ppl that can't afford to go to the wedding to be able to celebrate with you. That being said, I do think that there has to be a limit to gifts at these kinds of celebrations (at least in my opinion). If I were a guest attending a DW, I wouldn't want to have to buy a shower gift, a wedding gift, plus spend a grand just to get to the actual wedding. I think a really great shower can be thrown that doesn't have to be planned just around opening presents. You plan games, food and spend time with your friends and fam.
You can always let your guests know that their presence is all you ask for at the shower and instead ask for advice or suggestions. Also something that I've seen done is that instead of gifts, ask your guests to print out a few of their favorite recipes so that you can create a cook book. That way everytime you use the recipes you think of the person who gave it to you.
I'm interested to see what other ppl say about this bc I'll be dealing with it soon too (my FI fam is really big and most likely most of them will be able to come to the wedding..)
Good luck with your shower, and don't let pesky family members dampen your celebration!!
Posted 16 February 2010 - 11:40 PM
Posted 16 February 2010 - 11:49 PM
My point is no one is ever going to be happy even if you did a traditional wedding. Someone will complain about something! I know it's hard because you really want to please everyone and I'm sure you would love for your aunt and other family members to be at the wedding. Well at least that's what I am dealing with. :-)
Stay close to the BDW family for support and keep moving towards your dream! :-)
Posted 16 February 2010 - 11:50 PM
| Originally Posted by ali0284 |
I just HATE how everyone questions your choice for a DW and complains about it. To me, if you are going to complain, then don't come. YOu can't make everyone happy, right?
Posted 17 February 2010 - 02:05 AM
Posted 17 February 2010 - 02:13 AM
Posted 17 February 2010 - 02:15 AM
Posted 17 February 2010 - 04:00 AM
Now if you were marrying a man on death roll for murder I could see auntie saying, I don't think is a wise choice and we shouldn't be encouraging the girl and pretending to give our blessings.
People have a way of making things about them and are so twisted in their thinking and no matter what she would have someting negitive to say because that's just her.
Shake it off baby, you deserve to have a shower for the people that can not make, it gives them a chance to say we love you and best wishes... Trust me there will be tons of those people... It's isn't about the negitive aunt and don't give her any attention...
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