lobster is extra

[NaM]

DOn't have much to add except that I agree on what everyone else is saying...if it's even an option, you should pick up tab.

[carolina24]

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Originally Posted by CourtneyV I think since you will be eating lobster in front of your guests and you are offering it to them, then you should pay the extra fee, not the guest. If you don't want to pay the extra fee, don't eat lobster!!

just what I was thinking!

[Melidell]

I agree that you've only got the two choices- pay for the lobster or leave it off the menu (even for FI). There's just no polite way to ask a guest to pay for their own meal at your wedding and it would also be rude for him to have it if no one else can. 18 CUC is a lot to pay on top of the price for the dinner- depending on your guest list it could really wreck your budget. I'd crunch the numbers for FI and then see if he's still got his heart set on the lobster.

[Salamander]

I am also a ILA Varadero bride. I have found myself in a splurge/save situation. I am having a late ceremony (6:30pm) and am paying an extra $150 for it since it is outside the notary hours, the trade off is that I will have a later seating for dinner (8:30pm) which is free (where you would have to pay a fee for dinner during prime time). The benefit of the later seating is that by the time dinner is finished the disco should be open so we do not have to pay for a private reception............ therefore after this long winded explanation I will pay for lobster for my guests who choose to have it. Maybe you can find a way to save money somewhere else to splurge on your guests for lobster dinner?

[RonNMel]

Thank you everyone. That just confirmed what I was thinking. It's FI, the one who's actually going to eat the lobster, who didn't think that way.

 

 

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Originally Posted by Salamander I am also a ILA Varadero bride. I have found myself in a splurge/save situation. I am having a late ceremony (6:30pm) and am paying an extra $150 for it since it is outside the notary hours, the trade off is that I will have a later seating for dinner (8:30pm) which is free (where you would have to pay a fee for dinner during prime time). The benefit of the later seating is that by the time dinner is finished the disco should be open so we do not have to pay for a private reception............ therefore after this long winded explanation I will pay for lobster for my guests who choose to have it. Maybe you can find a way to save money somewhere else to splurge on your guests for lobster dinner?

Our ceremony will be very early, but we will have a late dinner too so at least that will be free. Guests will be free to do whatever they want in between. And just like you, I like the fact that the disco should open not long after the dinner. We've also decided to save money by doing the legal part here and just a symbolic ceremony there, so that's how I convinced FI that paying for the lobster is the right thing to do. :-)

[mekanabr]

I agree with what everyone else has said... In my opinion, everyone already paid $$$ to come to the wedding, you guys should at least cover whatever you offer for the wedding reception (booze, food etc) If you're worried about the cost then don't offer it. Good luck with the rest of your planning, I'm gong to crave lobster the rest of the night lol!

[Melidell]

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Originally Posted by mekanabr Good luck with the rest of your planning, I'm gong to crave lobster the rest of the night lol!

Yep, I've been thinking about lobster all day now.

[Princess402]

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Originally Posted by Cindy* I agree with the other comments. You should either pay for the lobster or not offer it at all. The cost is not that much (certainly far less than having it at home) and your guests will probably be impressed that it's an option. Alternatively, leave it off the menu and have it with your FI another night.

I would have to agree with Cindy and the other posters.

P.S. Sounds like your wedding dinner is going to be delish!!!