Your Own children in wedding

[Megan24]

My FI and have a three year old son together. I know that some of you have children with other people or with your FI. How did you involve them in the wedding? Where they ring bearers and flower girls? I am just not sure about the the etiquette when it comes to this. Part of me wants him to be in the wedding but the other part of me does not want him looking back at the pictures saying. Mommy why were you not married before you had me? lol

 

How did you handle this situation if you are in it?

[KimmyD]

I really think he should be included somehow. He will feel proud. In my first wedding my son wore the same tux as my ex. He was the ring bearer and he was so excited and took the job very seriously. He was 4 at the time. It was great! That being said - this wedding my FI and I are not including any of our six children, we love them but this is our weddingmoon! We need that break.

[march132010]

I have a 13 year old boy and a 7 year old my son will be the only grooms"man" and my daughter will be my only bridemaid.

[AlexsBride]

My FI has two children from a previous marriage, a boy and a girl and we have a 20 month old daughter together. All of them will be in the wedding somehow. The 8 year old boy will be a ring bearer and the two girls will be flower girls. I am also pregnant and the baby will be 7 months old by the time our wedding rolls around and he/she will be included as well (probably carried down the aisle by the oldest and then given to my Mom to hold onto during the ceremony.

 

As for looking back at the pictures years from now and wondering about being married after being born....times have changed! I don't even think it will be an issue!

[bnbrmy]

I think you should include him as well. I think you might end up regretting not having him in it. I don't see any reason to keep him out of it, he's gonna know one day that he was born before you were married, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Let him join in on the fun, it will be great for him to be able to celebrate with his mom and dad.

[*HOLLY*]

Include him as a ring bearer or a GM. My daughter from my first marriage is my flower girl and I would not have it any other way!

[Megan24]

Thanks ladies. I know times have changed I really do not have a problem with it. It is more of my very strict southern baptist family. They keep making me feel weird about having him in the wedding.

 

The other thing is he is kind of a wild child and I could just see him running into the ocean with the ring taking a swim. lol

[bnbrmy]

lol I understand! My niece will be my mini maid of honor and she's 6, she does whatever - whenever. PERIOD! I'm pretty sure she will also end up in the ocean or I'll have to carry her down the aisle. She's like my daughter, after I lost my brother, my grandmother and I have taken on the daddy roll. So even though she's probably going to run around a set things on fire or strip naked, I still couldn't imagine the day without her. lol

[Mischaka]

me and my FI have a 6yr old. and at the time of the wedding he will be 7 and he is going to be the best man. We are not really worried about traditions...I think it's a little late for that...lol

[Megan24]

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Originally Posted by Mischaka me and my FI have a 6yr old. and at the time of the wedding he will be 7 and he is going to be the best man. We are not really worried about traditions...I think it's a little late for that...lol

So right it is a little late to worry about etiquette I guess when you already got the kiddo. lmao