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My mom and MOH keep asking me about having a bridal shower but I am on the fence about it. I feel awkward asking guests to come to a bridal shower and buy a gift since they will be spending so much to come to the wedding in the first place. I also feel bad that I know my mom and bridal party will be incurring an additional cost if they throw me a shower. My mom and MOH think I'm being silly and shouldn't worry about it. What are the rest of you girls doing? Any ideas or advice are welcome.

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I feel the same way. I did not want a shower because of the cost of traveling. However, we are headed home to Boston at the end of the month for FI's bachelor party and the girls are throwing me some sort of shower. I don't know any of the details :) We can't do my bachelorette party the same weekend because my MOHs both had babies within the last 6 weeks and are not ready for a night of drinking yet :)

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My mom, bridal party and MIL are throwing me a shower. I am all about it. For YEARS I have been attending showers, weddings and all that go with it. We are starting from scratch and need the things we registered for. I understand that people are coming and spending money, but they are doing this because they love you and your fiance and don't want to miss your special day. But this is just my opinion!

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I felt the same way, but more because I feel bad receiving gifts... I mean I've gone to countless wedding/baby showers, housewarmings, birthdays, weddings etc. but when it comes to all the attention and gifts being for me, I feel so guilty for some reason!!!

 

But as it turns out, a lot of people actually want to come to the shower and it's also nice for those people who can't make it to the actual wedding.

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I feel awful about having a shower. We're only inviting a few close friends and immediate family to the ceremony in Italy. We are having an AHR when we return with extended family and friends. My mom's BFF wants to throw me a shower and other friends, who are not coming to Italy, say I should have one because every bride deserves a shower. I just don't want to put anyone out. I agree with another post here. I give and give but when the tables are turned I feel weird.

 

I do think a shower will be fun...well on my terms. What I think we'll do is a luncheon with close girl friends. I don't need anything elaborate and no games. I am so over shower games for both baby and brides.

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I felt the same way. I told my mom and sister that i they insisted on throwing me a shower, i wanted no gifts since people were already spending so much coming to the wedding. That did not fly :) people really wanted to bring a little something, so I went to register but made sure to keep the gifts in a very affordable price range, or if people felt so inclined they could contribute a little something to our honeymoon fund:)

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I feel your awkwardness...I wasn't really big on having a shower considering the costs that all are incurring in coming to the DR but my family and my mom has tons of friends and they all want to be a part of my wedding. It was a little uncomfortable at first but I am so flattered that all of these friends want to be a part of our special day, even though they aren't coming and for some even though they weren't invited. As of now three showers have been plannedembarrest.gif. One friends and downtown people, one ladies from my old neighbourhood and one will be a his and hers shower for both my FI and I. I am super excited for the His and Hers shower because everyone that will be there is going to the wedding! Kind of like a pre-departure Party! I've told all of by BM's and my MOH that they SHOULD NOT GET ANY GIFTS FOR ANY OF THE SHOWERS! Hopefully they'll listen! :)

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I felt the same way, but more because I feel bad receiving gifts... I mean I've gone to countless wedding/baby showers, housewarmings, birthdays, weddings etc. but when it comes to all the attention and gifts being for me, I feel so guilty for some reason!!!
I feel the same way! I asked to not have to open gifts in front of everyone but they wanted me to.

I also wasn't sure I wanted a shower but it was thrown for me and I went with it. In the end it was fun and a lot of people who could not make it to the wedding were able to attend, so that was nice.
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