Issues with Parents-in-Law-to-be
Posted 03 February 2010 - 04:38 PM
Posted 03 February 2010 - 05:06 PM
Just remember, this is YOUR wedding. They had plenty of time to give input and chose not to. It seems that no matter when or what you do, there will be something they will complain about. They did not offer to help pay when you were looking to book, but now they want to give you money change it? That is just ethically wrong. Had they wanted to help pay from the get-go, yes, their input would truly matter. If they REALLY want to be there, they will. If they do not go, they will secretly regret it.
Do what is going to make you and your fiance happy. Changing wedding plans may not make up too unhappy, but will they find something else to gripe about? My fiance has told me he is glad I handle all the wedding stuff because we have had so many people wanting us to change things. I simply smile and say "because that is not what we want" and go about my business. My poor fiance would feel guilty and try to suite everyone else instead of us. Good luck and do what you feel is best for your situation!
At Home Reception: May 7, 2011
25 guests + bride + groom booked
My Wedding Planning Notes
Posted 03 February 2010 - 05:18 PM
Posted 03 February 2010 - 06:05 PM
We had problems with FI's parents to the point that they refused to speak to us for six weeks (a long time by his mom's standards) and even after the fact FI isn't sure how much of a relationship he wants to have with them anymore.
If you and FI are honestly happy with the plans that you've made so far, then I would simply explain to his parents that there are reasons you had asked for their input from the beginning and that you'd done your best to accommodate the family and still have the kind of wedding that you both will be happy with. If they can't understand that six months after the booking is too late, then that's their own fault.
For us, FI's parents knew that they would never be able to live with themselves if they missed their youngest sons wedding (he's only got one older brother too) so they came around eventually. You just have to agree between the two of you on what you really want and put your foot down. Let them be the ones to screw up and don't feel guilty for it at all!!!
Posted 03 February 2010 - 07:36 PM
Posted 04 February 2010 - 01:30 AM
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