BM bailed on my bachelorette party....wrong to be mad?
Posted 31 January 2010 - 08:27 PM
One of my BMâ€™s had told me last week that she may have to leave my party early, because she had some birthday party she had to put in an appearance at. Okay, cool. Said BM was supposed to go along with me to my hair trial yesterday to give her input and whatnot. This was at 1 in the afternoon. I called her at 12:15 and she didnâ€™t answer. I figured maybe she was still asleep or something, because she had another birthday party the night before.
Called her again when I was on my way to my MOHâ€™s at 3 for my bridal shower. Still no answer. Called again after dinner at 6â€¦.again, no picking up of the phone on her end. Finally I called as we were leaving for the first bar at 8:30! Again, SURPRISE!!! She didnâ€™t pick up her cell. I left her a message asking her if she was planning on coming to my bachelorette party, and to call me when she heard the message. She never showed.
I got home at about 2am, and sat up for a while in an attempt to sober up before sleep (it helps prevent the next day hangover.) And at about 3, while I was screwing around on FB, I see that she updates her status, saying what a â€œgreat night,â€ sheâ€™d had, and that it was bedtime.
Iâ€™m so sick of this crap from my BMâ€™s. I get married in 13 days, and I think Iâ€™ve had it. Am I wrong to be mad? Iâ€™m about ready to tell her not to bother coming to the wedding at all.
Posted 31 January 2010 - 08:48 PM
I hope she has a really good excuse, but if she had such a 'great night' then I doubt it's a reason you'll find excusable. It always cracks me up how people bust themselves by posting things on FB... duh!
Posted 31 January 2010 - 09:00 PM
My best friend called me yesterday, almost in tears, telling me that she cannot make it to the wedding. I totally understand- she has had a lot of $$ problems lately. But she absolutely promised me that she would be there for my bachelorette party, which is in Denver, and she lives in San Diego. That meant so much to me, knowing that she doesn't have a lot of cash right now, that she would make that effort. To me, that is how a friend does things.
I would talk to her and let you know how you feel. I think it will make you feel a lot better, and to get a perspective on where her head and heart are at...hope it all works out for you!!!
Posted 31 January 2010 - 10:21 PM
BUT, I don't think there is ANY excuse for not contacting you, even if at the very last minute, to tell you of her change in plans and to apologize.
I would ask her if she still wants to be your bridesmaid. Her response should be very telling. And if it turns out she is not ready to being a BM or does not want to be one for sure, then that's unfortunate, but definitely better to know now than to have her potentially stand you up on your actual wedding....
Good luck and so sorry this happeend to you!
Posted 31 January 2010 - 11:43 PM
Posted 01 February 2010 - 03:04 AM
Posted 01 February 2010 - 03:13 AM
Posted 01 February 2010 - 03:14 AM
I'd say you should talk to your BM and see what was going through her head this weekend, and then just focus on your wedding. It's sooo close, and there's no need to stress yourself out over her. If it really bugs you, then make sure you do talk to her soon. You don't want any drama to pop up on your wedding day.
Posted 01 February 2010 - 04:20 AM
Posted 01 February 2010 - 11:10 AM
I am sorry but, life is too short to keep selfish people like that close to you.
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