Anyone else have another family wedding close to theirs causing drama?
Posted 30 January 2010 - 01:14 AM
We have helped them in so many ways and never minded. But suddenly everything is a competition. Our socials are a month apart and they are competing to see who sells more tickets. They keep asking what our prizes are, and I don't even want to tell them anymore because I feel like we're being judged. Not to mention that they copied our letter word for word and I gave them a list of every business who donated to us, which I've been working on for like 5 months!!! But I never minded until now, because we were all friends.
Now the mom's are competing, and I'll admit my FMIL has been sucked in. But my FI's aunt practically hates us for having our wedding close to theirs. And trashes us every chance she gets! Apparently because they have a child together and got engaged a few months before us gives them the right to call dibs on everything. My FI and I have been together 2 years longer than them and everyone had been waiting for us to tie the knot since before they even met. I know I sound petty, but its starting to get to me.
Now bridal showers are becoming an issue, and again its all our fault. I honestly don't even want one because of the drama. All the other aunts are starting to take sides, mainly mine, but I feel bad because I don't want them turning on my FI's cousin. I don't want my shower to be a competition either, its suppose to be fun!
My FI is so upset, he doesn't want to help them in anyway now, and that's not like him. I really just don't want a permanent rift to occur because of our wedding. Its putting a damper on everything. Our social is coming up and I don't want it to be awkward, although his aunt refuses to come anyway.
We have been considerate of them every step of the way, and they've never once considered us. And yet we are the bad guys!! GGRRR Its so frustrating.
Thanks for listening and if anyone has advice I'll be glad to hear it!!!
Posted 30 January 2010 - 04:27 AM
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Posted 31 January 2010 - 12:35 PM
Posted 31 January 2010 - 01:11 PM
Wow, I seem to have a little more drama than I thought! Sorry to semi-hijack...
Posted 31 January 2010 - 05:02 PM
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Posted 03 February 2010 - 10:57 PM
I almost had a meltdown back in September when my sister (2 years older) first told me that she and her fiance (who had been together close to 13 years before they actually decided to have a wedding) wanted to get married on May 17th, which would have been 3 DAYS after our wedding on May 14 (John and I would have still been in Jamaica on our honeymoon when she wanted to do this back in the States!) So....I completely flipped out on her, and said, "What the hell is the big hurry to do it 72 hours after us?!?! You've been with him over a DECADE, so if you want a war, you've got one if you go through with this!" Thankfully, she decided to move it up and got married on 12/12/09 without incident -- whew, what a relief, right?
But, then there's my cousin who got engaged after us, and announced she wanted to have her wedding in Sept. 2010....in HAWAII! 2 DWs in our family only a few months apart was surely going to cause our relatives to have to choose between us, or so I thought. Turns out, that she and her FI won't be able to attend our wedding, and we won't be able to afford to go to theirs, so there are no hurt feelings there, and no one in our family is "choosing", at all! Everyone pretty much decided that if they can't go to both, they won't go to either, and we haven't really felt the need to compete as of yet, so I'm hoping the mutual respect for each other's Big Days continues...
I HOPE YOU OTHER GIRLS CAN FIND A SIMILAR PEACE WITH YOUR RELATIVES, BECAUSE YOU'LL STILL BE FAMILY AFTER THE WEDDINGS ARE LONG OVER! HUGS, and I'll be praying everyone can find some common ground where there is less stress for all involved!
Posted 04 February 2010 - 12:02 AM
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