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#1 northernflasher

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    Posted 28 January 2010 - 07:25 PM

    I have read the wording for the legal Mexican ceremony and it really doesn't suit us seeing as my fianc© has an 11year old son to a previous partner who will be attending our ceremony. I really don't want to stand there like a hypocrite listening to the extract they read about marriage being the only moral way to found a family... Blah blah!

    We want to light a memorial candle, have a sand ceremony and my fianc© wants to present me with the arras coins. We also wanted to say our own vows. In the legal wording example I have there doesn't appear to be any vows or exchange of rings ceremony, how do they word this in the ceremony?

    Does anyone have examples of legal personalised ceremonies that were acceptable? I read some really beautiful ceremonies on this forum but I think they were blessings rather than legal.
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    #2 Destination Scout

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      Posted 28 January 2010 - 08:17 PM

      You can't change the wording in the legal ceremony in Mexico. The wording has to stay the same and it has to be in spanish. However, you can have the legal exchange of vows and add your own exchange in english.

      #3 northernflasher

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        Posted 12 February 2010 - 04:18 AM

        Thanks Malisa,

        I still can't quite figure out how the whole ceremony fits together?
        I just sent my version of the ceremony to my WC.
        I basically left all the official wording in except ocampos letter and added our own bits where I thought they worked best.
        Hopefully she'll get back to me with any changes.
        Its kinda daunting not really knowing what you will be saying at your own wedding!
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        #4 MissyR

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          Posted 12 February 2010 - 08:22 AM

          I would have to disagree with Malisa - we had a legal ceremony in English. And while you can't remove parts - you can certainly add things in. We did our own vows and also a sand ceremony - in terms of structure, we did the vows and then sand ceremony and then the exchange of the rings - I'll see if i can dig it up!

          #5 Destination Scout

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            Posted 12 February 2010 - 11:07 AM

            Was yours legal Missy? I've had the judge tell me differently. Maybe the judges in Cancun are different than the one's further down the coast. That's great to hear.

            #6 ~Nicole~

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              Posted 12 February 2010 - 11:16 AM

              Hmmm maybe its the resorts that differ? I was not allowed to change any of mine and it also had to be in Spanish. Maybe your best option is to confirm with the WC of your resort.
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              #7 MissyR

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                Posted 12 February 2010 - 02:40 PM

                Quote:
                Originally Posted by Malisa
                Was yours legal Missy? I've had the judge tell me differently. Maybe the judges in Cancun are different than the one's further down the coast. That's great to hear.
                Yup ours was legal! Our coordinator told us then judge that does the weddings for the Paradisus spoke English - I gather though that this isn't a common practice.

                We couldn't change what needed to be included - but were free to add as we wanted..

                #8 northernflasher

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                  Posted 14 February 2010 - 09:54 AM

                  Thanks for your input girls but oooh now im really confused!!!

                  MissyR it would be great if you could dig up your ceremony to give me an idea of what can be accepted, did you have the ocampos letter in yours?

                  Our co-ordinator got back to me yesterday with answers to our questions but when I opened the email it was another girls wedding form taking place a week before ours... doesn't give me a lot of hope!

                  Thanks
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                  #9 *Krista*

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                    Posted 16 February 2010 - 06:09 PM

                    I'm having this same concern, and I'm also getting married at Dreams Tulum. When I asked about personalizing the ceremony, I was told we could add our own vows. I would really like to have a hand ceremony though, so I hope I can somehow get that incorporated. I am also curious to see how they work in the ring exchange, as the copy I was sent had nothing about rings in it. It was very short and weird sounding...
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                    #10 Jess3414

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                      Posted 16 February 2010 - 08:18 PM

                      Thanks for this info. I better check with my WC to see what were going to be saying...do any of you have the info on the wording that is "required"?




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