The First Family Fight...Children at the Wedding
Posted 17 July 2007 - 12:54 PM
Most people that have kids are leaving them home, but my close girlfriend is bringing her daughter who will be 4. Didn't expect a flower girl, but hey, she's going to be there, so why not? that is the only kiddie we are expecting.
Posted 17 July 2007 - 12:59 PM
Posted 17 July 2007 - 01:12 PM
We talked about it last night, and decided that the first night (BBQ on the beach) would be kid friendly enough and it would be fine if they brought their kids. I am going to explain though that the other two nights are adults only, and again, tell them about the babysitter. We will see how it goes
Posted 17 July 2007 - 06:59 PM
If there are only two kids, those two kids will stick really close to their parents and I suspect they will be very well behaved. I doubt you or your guests will even see them (aside from the other guests sitting at their table). Regardless, if you feel like this is that important to you, then go for it, but be ok with graciously accepting the family drama (I'm not a parent, but I suspect that if someone asked me to leave them with a child care provider that I didn't know or someone I trusted didn't know, that would be very hard for me).
Posted 17 July 2007 - 09:10 PM
| Originally Posted by Alisarosenbaum |
So my FI and I decided to have an adults only wedding, which we knew would upset a number of people. Most people with children are either not coming, or getting babysitters back home. My cousin called me to see if she could bring her kids to the wedding because she did not feel comfortable leaving them with the Hilton babysitter. We do not want kids at the wedding. Has anyone dealt with this??
We had a tough time dealing with this one as well.. Lots of friends have little ones. So we found a resort with a baby sitter, like you did, and asked that it be an adult only wedding and reception. For us it was easier because my sister decided to turn this trip into a romantic trip with her husband, and leave their 2 behind.. and my brother is leaving his 3 behind and making it a long weekend trip. With that in mind.. I told my guests with kids.. none of the family kids are coming so we asked that no kids come! I do have a couple girl friends who are just having kids before the wedding.. and we told them any infants or babies who need to be fed, of course can come and we're setting up a 'pack n-play' in one of the rooms of the Villa we rented for the wedding. We've just asked not to have any toddlers running around. A couple of our guests who don't feel comfortable with the resort sitter are bringing a grandparent along.. another couple talked about chipping in and bringing one nanny from home, for several kids. Maybe to solve that problem you and your fiance can chip in and pay for one nanny to come with .. who people know and feel more comfortable with.. and during the wedding/reception they can leave their kids with THAT nanny instead of the hotels. We did have one woman who didn't like any of the ideas we suggested.. so she's coming, she's bringing her kids, and not coming to the Wedding and reception.. but her husband is.
To each his own, right? But in the end your friends and family should be respectful of your decision. It is your day!!
Cabo San Lucas
October 20th, 2007
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