Aggravated w/ MOH

[Ashlynn039]

Wow! I'm sorry all of this drama is happening Luckily your wedding is in June so hopefully your two BMs will make up by then. And seriously - your MOH needs to get her act together! Your her best friend and she cant let some boyfriend interfere with her standing in your wedding!

[cublica82]

I feel your pain!! three of my bridesmaids dropped out, and now the airfare is higher than my original quote and there a lot of people that dont want to go now and i am sooo upset! and also my fiancee's fam is being difficult and he only has his brother attending!! Im faced with a dilemma...do i go ahead with the wedding in cancun MY DREAM!!! or do i cancel due to his family not being present. Its so hard to be excited when u have people bringing you down. I think your MOH is acting horrible, forget the boyfriend she should be there for her best friend and since she already accepted< WTF?! and i also have guests that want be to do all the leg work to find them cheap deals! im soo stressed out....I thought having a destination wedding was supposed to be less stressful

[KimmyG]

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Originally Posted by cublica82 I feel your pain!! three of my bridesmaids dropped out, and now the airfare is higher than my original quote and there a lot of people that dont want to go now and i am sooo upset! and also my fiancee's fam is being difficult and he only has his brother attending!! Im faced with a dilemma...do i go ahead with the wedding in cancun MY DREAM!!! or do i cancel due to his family not being present. Its so hard to be excited when u have people bringing you down. I think your MOH is acting horrible, forget the boyfriend she should be there for her best friend and since she already accepted< WTF?! and i also have guests that want be to do all the leg work to find them cheap deals! im soo stressed out....I thought having a destination wedding was supposed to be less stressful

I agree with every word you said and in this thread. My wedding is in just over 2 months and TWO out of my THREE bridesmaids STILL HAVEN'T BOOKED and they're implying they might not be able to make it. Wish I would have known this, oh 1.5 years ago when I asked you to be a bridesmaid!!!!
Destination weddings bring out the best and the worst in people, i suppose. Bridesmaids have been the only source of stress in this wedding planning!

[stevensFiance]

Maybe we should just be eachothers bridesmaids, ha ha. Thats terrible that your girls dropped out, I understand its pricey to go away, but give me a break. A. They get a mini vaca out of it and B. Im sure the majority of us are using AI hotels, and they dont have to pay for a thing while being there! I asked my girls individually, because I wanted to sit down with each of them and make sure that they did not commit to this if they werent 100% sure they could afford it. $$ doesnt seem to be the issue with any of my girls, just everything else, and you know how easy they are all getting off? My fiances mother is paying for the ENTIRE COST of the shower, she paid for the invites, the hall, decorations the whole kit and cubbudle (however you spell.)

 

Cublica82: this is your and soon to be husbands day, I think you should sit down with him and see how he feels about the situation, if he is ok with the majority of his family not being there, then go ahead and do it, im sure this is always what you wanted as it is what me & steve always dreamed of from our very first vacation together. We both sat down and said ok, this is what we want and were doing it for us and yes it may be a little upsetting that some special people will not be there, but........ I cant plan my life around what others want.

 

My MOH is now upset at me for the most obnoxious reason ever, like I said in one of my previous posts the BM's Dresses came in yesterday. The store is 2 hours from where I live in NY and with this insane weather weve been having I decided to take the drive yesterday and go pick them up, the store is in PA and they get hit with much more snow then we do, and I have no intentions on driving in 2 hours of shitty traffic so I went because it was nice. She calls me on my drive to bs and asked what I was doing so I told her, and she says "well thanks for waiting for me" and hangs up. Are you serious??

[bikegirl]

^ I think people forget when they agree to be a bridesmaid, that it is a commitment and it is work. Yes, it can be a lot of fun and very flattering to be asked, but it's going to hurt more when you can't pull through for the bride-to-be than to tell her beforehand that you don't think you'll be able to do it.

 

And if you've already committed, remember that it is not about YOU, it is about the BRIDE. *sigh* Unfortunately, I don't think a lot of these bridesmaids remember that at all!

[cublica82]

all i can say is WOW! Your MOH is def acting strange! after all that, she wants to go with you and act involved and has the nerve to hang up on you!!! I really hope the situation gets better for you. As you said previously, everyone clearly was aware of their duties as bridesmaid and MOH. I'm thinking maybe she started to get jealous of the bride? good luck and keep us posted. Also thank u for your advice regarding my fiancee's fam. We are working on that now. He will sit there and say,"i really want my mother there,etc but look at that torquoise sea!! lol

Thank you ladies!! ANd it is true, having a destination wedding brings out the worst and best in people

[cublica82]

all i can say is WOW! Your MOH is def acting strange! after all that, she wants to go with you and act involved and has the nerve to hang up on you!!! I really hope the situation gets better for you. As you said previously, everyone clearly was aware of their duties as bridesmaid and MOH. I'm thinking maybe she started to get jealous of the bride? good luck and keep us posted. Also thank u for your advice regarding my fiancee's fam. We are working on that now. He will sit there and say,"i really want my mother there,etc but look at that torquoise sea!! lol

Thank you ladies!! ANd it is true, having a destination wedding brings out the worst and best in people