Only married 7 weeks and heading for divorce :(
Posted 25 January 2010 - 11:51 AM
Posted 25 January 2010 - 12:22 PM
Posted 25 January 2010 - 12:23 PM
Big hugs - you know we are here if you need us!
Posted 25 January 2010 - 12:24 PM
Good luck and I hope that it all works out for YOU most of all!!
Posted 25 January 2010 - 12:44 PM
Posted 25 January 2010 - 12:59 PM
Trust is a big deal to me...and when you break it...it's over.
I am so sorry that you have to deal with this.
Be strong and hang in there!
Posted 25 January 2010 - 01:02 PM
You are a smart, BEAUTIFUL and kind woman... remember that!
Posted 25 January 2010 - 01:09 PM
I have been through something similar. It seems though that the most crucial thing here is that he isn't willing to do what you need to get past this. Why isn't he willing? Clearly he messed up, and everyone makes mistakes. But I feel that marriages can survive if people are willing to do what it takes to move forward. So he has to be willing and so do you.
My advice is to wait a bit and let the dust settle before saying it's 100% over. Not saying you should stay with him or not, but just that it's hard to make these kind of massive decisions when you emotions are so high. Take some time and figure out if you're willing to move past this. Figure out what you really want first and what you feel you are capable of. It might take some time to sort through that. Perhaps in the end he will be willing to do what it takes, but you have to want to as well. Whatever decision you make will be the right one.
PM me if you want to chat some more...seriously I've been there and can relate to what you're going through.
Posted 25 January 2010 - 01:11 PM
Everyone else said it the best.
In the end, it is you and him. Counseling will help but don't let him walk over you. You are supposed to be his #1. I find it disturbing that he won't give you his passwords, her number and etc. If he is not willing to do that, walk away no matter how much it hurts. You can't let him take away your dignity.
Hang in there. We all are here for you.
Posted 25 January 2010 - 01:20 PM
I hope you know you have a good support system here and that you find peace with the situation and move forward whether it's with him or not.
Sending good thoughts your way.
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