Anyone getting married first and not telling guests?
Posted 24 January 2010 - 12:17 AM
Thanks for the ideas - I have to figure out how much time in Ontario you need to get the license and certificate done. My parents will know, but that's it, not sure what to do about witnesses since I don't think you can use parents as a witness.
Posted 24 January 2010 - 12:26 AM
| Originally Posted by sungoddess_08 |
I am wondering if anyone else is getting married prior to going to the DR. We have decided to get the Renewal of the Vows and save the paper work by getting married here first.
Is there any way to trick our guests, we DO NOT want them to know about this -- they are flying all the way there to see us be married, so I would feel awful.
I would love to hear any advice on how people have pulled this off, or are going to!!
I felt really guilty about this initially, but we didn't exchange rings or walk down the aisle with my Dad.. saw each other all day and honestly I didn't even dress up for it... I tried not to make it very special to alleviate my guilt.
We will be celebrating the 20, not the 15 as our anniversary date as well.
I still was totally nervous on the 20, cried going down the aisle til my Dad kept stepping on my dress, etc.
We just said to anyone who asked about it being legal that we already signed papers with the WC/judge and had my BIL & SIL as our witnesses b/c there happened to be there.. then we did lie and say we were getting everything translated when we got home.. I even had a girl on our plane come up to me at the airport and give me her card because they are in the translating/notarizing business.. I told her to advertise here!
Anyways, I started to ramble ... hope this helps
Posted 24 January 2010 - 01:27 AM
So that's good to know that someone else managed to pull it off!
So you only had to go a few days before you left? Was that for the license or the certificate? I am still confused over that, leaving it to the FI to look into!
Posted 28 January 2010 - 01:39 AM
Posted 28 January 2010 - 12:46 PM
| Originally Posted by butterfly4kathy2 |
We got married in December, but our actual wedding is in May. We wanted to get married before the first of the year to try to get a better tax return to help pay for the wedding and also to save money and time on the hoops you have to jumo though in Mexico. the nice thing about Montana is that you dont need a witness. So we havent (and wont be) telling anyone!
Posted 28 January 2010 - 02:29 PM
Posted 28 January 2010 - 02:31 PM
| Originally Posted by Outdoor_girl1010 |
This is what we did and for the same reasons too. We got married in Dec for the tax reason. When I called the court house they told us we did not need witness, but we could have them if we wanted. When we got there and told the JP that we were having a DW he said well then we don't even have to say the vows. I thought that was really nice of him. He told us it will make the DW mean more since it will really be the first time we have said the vows.
Posted 28 January 2010 - 09:31 PM
While we were asking questions she did mention that if we got married here first "secretly" and then just have a renewal of vows there, keep it hush hush and no one would know the difference except for us and our witnesses.
I'm seriously thinking about it. My only question right now is if anyone has done this before, what's the ceremony like and can you actually tell the difference that's it's a renewal instead of the actual ceremony.
Posted 29 January 2010 - 09:55 AM
Posted 29 January 2010 - 11:40 AM
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