Feeling Blue - Way too close for this!

[Cindy*]

I'm glad to hear that you have worked things out. I think it is really important to commuinicate with your partner and work through issues together. As the other girls have said, always make sure you are doing what is best for you. Good luck.

[McToasty]

Phew. I'm so glad things are looking better for you. It *is* a really stressful time and I'm so thankful that we have each other to lean on for support and encouragement!

 

Happy wedding planning!

[Melidell]

I'm glad to hear that you're feeling better and that you guys talked. It's hard sometimes to put it all out there like that, but it's usually always worth it. Planning a wedding can be such a stressful time. You metioned that you're having some premarital counselling, too, that's awesome- good for you. Maybe bring up this issue with the counsellor, if you get a chance, even though you guys have discussed it- they may have some tips for you two that could also help. I'm glad to hear the wedding planning is fun again and that you're looking forward to the big day- best wishes!

[BeautifulBridetoBe]

From one beliver to another, I can really appreciate what you are saying. So I am sending encouragement your way

 

It is true that our weddings are stressful times and possible that stress is getting the best of us all. But it is equally important to think this through carefully, pray and ask God for His guidance...because He loves you so much and always wants what is best for his children.

 

Of all that you have said, the issue of trust sticks out to me. It suggests that there is more going on than wedding stress about budget and menu. If trust is an issue, my concern is that you are building on a less than solid rock.

 

The pros and cons list is a great idea and I will take it one step further. When you pray about this situation, pray about that list as well. Perhaps see someone else in the church that you trust that you can talk to that can provide you with guidance and encouragement in your Pastor's absence. Or an older married female, like a mother figure that can just listen...and pray with you.

 

My advice may not be popular beacuse it involves soul searching 25 days before your wedding and most people just want to get married today and work it out later. But the truth is that you both deserve God's best...because you were made by Him with such love and care. Be sure....so you can enjoy the benefits of love and marriage with your life partner.

 

My prayer for you is the peace that passes understanding in this situation, with whatever you choose.

 

I'll be praying for you