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#1 Misslaurap

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    Posted 12 January 2010 - 03:08 PM

    Ok, so just wondering, what was the average time inbetween when you started planning and when your wedding was?

    I don't think we'll be getting married until 2012 and I don't know what I can actually start planning yet!! I've got a rough idea as to what I want, layouts of the STD and invites, and I've thought about colors. I feel what with it being two years away still that maybe it's a bit too soon?

    I was also wondering when you would get the best deals/quotes for vendors/venues?

    #2 LadyTrunck

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      Posted 12 January 2010 - 03:33 PM

      IMHO you can start your planning whenever you feel like it! I got engaged in March 2008 but due to finances, could not have the wedding until July 2010. I am the most indescisive person in the world, so I didn't start planning until July 2009 to keep my sanity. The only thing I did beforehand was decide on a resort.

      There are so many options out there for details, just do whatever makes you happy. But remember- opinions change a lot in two years!
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      #3 KRama

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        Posted 12 January 2010 - 03:40 PM

        11 months for me. I couldn't imagine having a long engagement considering we've already been together for almost 10 years! I think you're ideas are a great start. I wouldn't worry about formally sending out STDs yet, maybe just word of mouth regarding plans for a DW.

        As for quotes, I found most vendors/venues don't have prices available more than a year before the date. And even resorts can change ownership between now and then so keep browsing and bookmark ones you like so you can have your top 5 ready in about a year.

        Like LadyTrunck said, you may find your opinions change over 2 years!

        #4 PetitRouge

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          Posted 12 January 2010 - 03:57 PM

          Well i got engaged in October of 2008 and am getting married in June 2010. I pretty much decided on the resort right away and sent out my invitations pretty early to give people lots of time to plan if they did in fact want to come to the wedding.
          I have the tendency to change my mind a lot, and even though i started to plan right away, a lot has changed from my original ideas of what i thought i wanted.
          So take your time, but I would say that if you want to start now go for it. After all it is your day, so you want it to be just right :)

          #5 Misslaurap

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            Posted 12 January 2010 - 05:53 PM

            Good to hear I'm not the only one who has so long in between engagement and the actual wedding! I'm just so excited and can't sit still right now! I don't know how I'm going to wait for two years! How did you girls manage it?! Patience is not good!

            I also know what you mean about indecisiveness, I'm terrible, I just know I'm going to annoy myself and change everything all the time!

            #6 Donie Jordan

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              Posted 12 January 2010 - 06:13 PM

              I would start looking at locations and resorts now. That way you can plan a site visit well in advance to decide where you want to be married. The frustrating part is waiting for the new prices to come out, as mentioned above many resorts will not have prices available until 12-15 months prior to the wedding. Good Luck and Happy Planning!

              #7 dimplz05

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                Posted 13 January 2010 - 08:55 PM

                I got engaged in September 2009 and started planning right away because we wanted to get married in May 2010 so I only had 8 months.

                #8 Sheree10

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                  Posted 14 January 2010 - 12:05 AM

                  We were engaged February 2009 and we're getting married July 2010 so that's about an engagement period of 1.5 years.

                  Time flies by so fast. You can at least start to research locations and think about your budget, guestlist( one of the hardest things I had to do),and overall how you want your special day to be.

                  Good luck!!

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                  #9 bikegirl

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                    Posted 14 January 2010 - 12:57 AM

                    Originally Posted by Sheree10
                    Time flies by so fast. You can at least start to research locations and think about your budget, guestlist( one of the hardest things I had to do),and overall how you want your special day to be.
                    I agree! My wedding is almost a year and a half away. I'm not sending out STDs until sometime late spring/summer BUT this leisurely planning I'm doing right now is a LOT of fun without the stress and I figure, by the time I actually need to get working on things, I'll be half done already. :)

                    #10 AnnaBanana

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                      Posted 17 January 2010 - 02:43 AM

                      I've changed my date/location so many times since we got engaged. We were engaged May 2009, but I didn't "get serious" until just recently.
                      Once you pick a date, you get this sort of mental timeline. It didn't really hit me that I had to seriously plan a wedding until it was under a year to do so.

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