ROR - Advice on Order of wedding events - Please

[Loveisintheair]

I am behind the eight ball but I get married March 6th at ROR at 4pm. I am having a semi-private reception and was thinking about the poolside reception afterwards with a dj. But I thought this would make for a long evening. About how long is the restaurant reception?

 

Or I was thinking about a coktail hour in between with a dj before.

 

I just want to be considerate of the guest time. I know it is about me but they have spent money for a vacation as well. Most are leaving the next day. Any thoughts?

[Loveisintheair]

Thanks so much! My FI and and I are concerend about taking too much of people's time. I want to do something afterwards but don't want to be inconsiderate.

[Jenna in Jamaica]

I don't think your being inconsiderate. It's your wedding and everyone should want to celebrate with you the way you want. Just my 2 cents....

[Loveisintheair]

Thanks! That is what I think but he is really concerned. Anybody had guest complain about the time their evwnt lasted.

[kerrij]

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Originally Posted by Loveisintheair Thanks so much! My FI and and I are concerend about taking too much of people's time. I want to do something afterwards but don't want to be inconsiderate.

They've come for your wedding so make the most of it! you don't want to have too little and then they miss out on all the typical fun wedding stuff! our friend didn't have a dinner or a dance and was a little disappointing not to get to party with them and have a little party. they are there for yoru wedding!

[sweetluna]

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Originally Posted by kerrij They've come for your wedding so make the most of it! you don't want to have too little and then they miss out on all the typical fun wedding stuff! our friend didn't have a dinner or a dance and was a little disappointing not to get to party with them and have a little party. they are there for yoru wedding!

That's great advice. I was feeling the same as loveisintheair; worried that maybe I shouldn't have a dance/reception in the evening because our guests might be tired or want to do other things but one of my BMs gave me this same advice that you have just provided, Kerrij, and it helped me realize that the guests who are there on the wedding day obviously care a lot about the bride & groom and they will support the married couple through the whole day and look forward to celebrating with them. I feel much better now about planning my reception where I will have my first dance with my new husband.

[chicklet]

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Originally Posted by Loveisintheair I am behind the eight ball but I get married March 6th at ROR at 4pm. I am having a semi-private reception and was thinking about the poolside reception afterwards with a dj. But I thought this would make for a long evening. About how long is the restaurant reception? Or I was thinking about a coktail hour in between with a dj before. I just want to be considerate of the guest time. I know it is about me but they have spent money for a vacation as well. Most are leaving the next day. Any thoughts?

We sat down for dinner at 6:30 at the plantation (they had moved us due to the number of weddings that day) and were not finished until 9:30 or 10. I was glad I didn't have anything planned as we just went to the bar and had some drinks for an hour and then went to the disco.

[baj]

thanks for sharing, also planning do the same, bar & disco

[miznunu2010]

Thanks for sharing because I was confused about this info as well. I was originally thinking about the poolside reception but I actually just made up my mind about the resort this week from joining the forum. I had two dates scheduled at two different locations!

[Loveisintheair]

I think I will do everything I want. Keep the party going. just need to decide between disco or poolside with dj.