Starting to freak out about ppl not booking

[simba1234]

I know this is a common issue for brides on this forum so I just want to get some encouragement from those who are going or have gone through the same thing. My wedding is now three months away and I only have 12 people who have booked out of 50 who said they're going. The RSVP cutoff date is March 21st and I just sent out the invitations 2 days ago but the save the date with all the information went out in October.

 

We have 50 people who have told us they are definetly going so I've made all my plans around that number. I just need to hear from other brides who have been through this and have had it all work out in the end. I need someone to make me feel encouraged because I'm really starting to freak out a little.

[shellk]

sorry may be me being silly but your wedding is 3mths away (march) and your rsvp cut off is march 21st is this right?

im sure now the holidays are over and done with people will start coming forward and book.please keep breathing believe me it will work out

[mswhatever]

I would not worry. I have had many people tell me they are planning to book after the holidays. I am sure it will be the same for you.

[JUSTUSTWO]

I think this is fairly common. In my case we had many guests who booked on time & then we had guests who waited until the absolute last minute to book. Those who missed the cut-off date missed the lower rates & paid a higher price which was their fault & not mine.

I also can't begin to tell you how many ppl told us initially that they would attend & then when it came time to book, they changed their minds. So you should be prepared for this b/c it is a possibility that all 50 will not attend.

 

With that being said, I know you're worried but you have to try to let it go. You've pretty much done your part. They have the info, they know the cut-off date so if they don't book on time & have to pay higher costs for not doing so then thats something that they have to deal with.

I probably invited about 50 people and we had a group of about 35 total that actual joined us in JA.

During our time there I only concentrated on the ppl that were there & didn't think twice about those that didn't make it. I'm sure you'll have that same experience & either way you will have a great wedding whether its only the 12 you have now that attend or the entire 50 that initally told you yes.

[kerrij]

Don't stress about it, they'll book. Just takes people time. maybe send them a friendly emil or phone call to see if they are booking. I didn't have an RSVP deadline, i don't mind if people book the last minute. Only pain is, if you get a free booking or something if you have a certain number book, then i'd just kidna put the pressure on a select few.

good luck!

[KittenHeart]

It took me a LONG time to stop stressing about this... people procrastinate, it's just what they do. Some may fall off, some may hop back on but just a casual personal email or phone call or text really eased my mind. I started telling people I just needed to get the final count of people to my coordinator and they told me whether or not they planned to come.

 

Getting people to book has been so far the most stressful aspect of the entire thing until I realized, I needn't waste my energy on it and I just need to remain positive and helpful to everyone

 

Good luck!

[baj]

getting married in 7 weeks and still people saying they are going, but still have not booked it yet, done the stress bit and now just decided if they book they book and if they don't they don't. don't worry and try not to stress, I am sure some people will still book, just look forward to your big day.

[Sheree10]

Try not to stress over it. Unfortunately, you probably won't know the final count until right before you leave. We are getting married in six months and only a few people have booked but when they're ready they will. Some are looking for better deals... hope they don't wait too long and have to pay much more $$.

[Jennyco116]

In all honesty most of my guests are waiting until Feb/March to get taxes out of the way.

[Loveisintheair]

I get married in a few weeks as well. And people are just booking but I am planning for 20 and if more than come than I am not stressing about it. You can only plan for the ones you know a little extra.