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#1 *New* Mrs. G

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    Posted 03 January 2010 - 04:38 AM

    I just found out on Wednesday December 30th 2009 (3 days ago) that my best friend is in recovery for drug & alcohol addiction. I've been friends with "Leigh" (not her real name obvs) since kindergarten, so 25 years.

    I'm very happy that she's made the choice to get better, but I'm wondering why she waited to tell me 2 weeks before we go. She's told me scary things like she was smoking crack & tried to commit suicide twice after her dad died. She is going to seek help for her mental health as she was once diagnosed as bipolar but never followed up with treatment.

    I knew she wasn't coming b/c she never send back the RSVP after she initially said she'd come. She's in a womens recovery house now with restrictions until she completes the required steps. I hope she sticks with it and stays sober. I know she will fall off the wagon but for the sake of her daughter, I hope she doesn't. I love her like a sister and I want what's best for her. I told her I'd prefer her to be clean & sober than come to our wedding.

    Thanks for letting me rant here. If anyone has any advice on this situation, I'm all ears.

    #2 renee1811

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      Posted 03 January 2010 - 04:56 AM

      I'm sorry about your friend, but am glad she is getting the help she needs. I don't really have any advice on how to handle this situation, but know we're all here for you!

      #3 SusieQ

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        Posted 03 January 2010 - 05:08 AM

        Just be her friend... sounds like you already knew there was issues. Just hearing the ugly stuff is hard to take when you love someone. Having worked with people with these types of issues for a long time I have found that when people close to them have their lives on an upswing they seem to spiral downwards.
        I think when they see people like yourself with things together and moving foward in life they realize just how *ucked up their lives are. They just can not cope... I am really sorry to hear that your friend is ill... You have your life to live and all you can do is be a good friend and roll model. Good luck on your special day...

        #4 vdaybride

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          Posted 03 January 2010 - 05:18 AM

          I am sorry that you are dealing with this so close to your big day, but make sure that she knows that you are there for her and keep her in your prayers or positive thought place. Go off and have a wonderful wedding.
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          #5 shellk

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            Posted 03 January 2010 - 09:19 AM

            sorry to hear that but its good that shes getting help and i hope she sees it through.its hard with anything like that i always think its harder to be the supporter than the sufferer if that makes sense.i hope you have peace of mind knowing she is getting help.you know wgere we are if you need us.

            #6 **~Linda~**

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              Posted 03 January 2010 - 11:56 AM

              Im sorry to hear about your situation. Honestly right now all you can be is her best friend. She is going to need to go through this whole path alone but it is always nice to have support available when you need it. Its a path with alot of up's and down's but it is one that thankfully she has chosen for her to be able to get better. Sending my prayers her way. Enjoy your wedding with the knowledge that your friend is in the best place she can be right now for herself.

              #7 CristiandJamie

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                Posted 03 January 2010 - 06:14 PM

                I'm sorry to hear about your friend and hope everything works out. The best thing you can do is be there for her and letting her know that she isnt alone.
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                #8 starchild



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                  Posted 03 January 2010 - 06:25 PM

                  I'm sure she waited to tell you because it isn't exactly an easy thing to say, kwim? She is dealing with a lot and maybe shocking her bff with her suicide stories and backing out of the wedding was a low priority on her list of things do. A lot of us have had people back out of our weddings for lesser reasons, at least hers is totally valid.

                  You don't know that she will fall off the wagon so don't think that way. Wish her well and support her however you can. I hope that she recovers :)

                  #9 Sheree10

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                    Posted 05 January 2010 - 09:54 PM

                    I'm so sorry to hear what is going on with your friend. It's sad that she can't be there for your special day but it's good to hear that she is getting the help she needs.

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                    #10 *New* Mrs. G

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                      Posted 06 January 2010 - 02:48 AM

                      Thanks for your support and advice ladies!!

                      She hasn't called me back yet, but when she's ready, I'll go visit her in the treatment center.

                      16 days to go!!!

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