I'm sad and need to vent!!
Posted 11 July 2007 - 03:57 PM
Don't take it personally, it's just what she needs to do.
Posted 11 July 2007 - 04:46 PM
Posted 11 July 2007 - 04:52 PM
Posted 11 July 2007 - 04:59 PM
Proud Mama to Evelyn Eileen since June 8, 2010
Posted 11 July 2007 - 05:21 PM
I understand why bridesmaids can be difficult. I've been a bridemaid 7 times & its easy to get your feelings hurt & feel mistreated. But it sounds like you are being very generous.
Some people were originally unsure because they didn't think they'd like the area, or thought the hotel would be too expensive. I made a really detailed webpage & included everything to get excited about in the area & at the hotel. I tried to include things I'd know our guest would be interested in. I think everyone is excited about it now. Some people didn't like the idea of an all-inclusive. Now they are saying they can't believe what a bargain it is. So maybe she just needs more information to see that what she is getting is an amazing deal.
I would be really sad to find out anyone chose to not stay at the hotel. I feel like I worked really hard to pick out a place that would appeal to everyone. They would miss out on a lot of the fun by staying somewhere else. I'd also worry they'd expect us to accomidate them by leaving the hotel & meeting them places. I think all staying at the same hotel is the best way to spend a lot of time together.
Posted 11 July 2007 - 06:31 PM
I also agree that it sounds like there's something more going on. Unless she's now unemployed or had to take a job at McDonald's, I don't see why the price is too high for her....
And having "other plans" for your engagement party? Yea, that's just crappy...
Posted 11 July 2007 - 06:34 PM
However, you should say, "You know, the room was reserved for you and someone will have to pay for it. I will do everything that I can to fill it so you're not on the hook, but I need to know no later than XXX date so there isn't any confusion as to whether you do or don't want the room and so that there is enough time to try to find someone to pay for it."
You don't want her to waffle back and forth on it only to say three months out that she doesn't want it and you won't have time to fill it because I seriously doubt she'll be kind enough to pay for it.
Posted 11 July 2007 - 06:44 PM
| Originally Posted by CABOBRIDE200 |
I'd be upset too about the room and the other plans that she has during your engagement party.
If you divide out the $800 over 5 nights it is $160 a night. Where does she plan to stay for less than that and with breakfast and drinks included? ...and, you paid for her airfare. Did you ask her where she plans to stay? ...that's just weird that she wants to stay somewhere else away from your other guests.
Money is money and that's one thing...but it just doesn't make sense!
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Posted 11 July 2007 - 09:46 PM
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