my mother in law is going to drive me to drink!!!
Posted 29 December 2009 - 10:03 PM
the whole time she was here she was going on about our wedding what we should and shouldn't do and how she still thinks we should have a big wedding at home!!!
the last straw was when we had my fi sisters over and his mom decided to look at the bridal books that i have. she started off by telling me that my wedding party should pay much for there dress and they should just be summer dresses nothing fancy since were doing it on the beach. then we got to talking about my flower girls and i had told her that that one of my bm's will have a 9 month old at our wedding and i was excited to find out what she is having and if it was a boy i would use him in the wedding. my mil told me that it's stupid to have a baby in the wedding that i was being silly if i did that. the icing on the cake was when she told me i shouldn't pay alot for my dress i should get a used one since i'm only having a beach wedding!!! i told her that if someone else wants to do that, that is fine but i said my mom will have no part in me getting a used dress and plus my mom and my aunt are helping to pay for it so they definalty have a say not her. finally my FIL got mad at her and told her she has no say in any of it ....
sorry i was just PO'd about it all and need to tell someone cause i FI thinks i'm being silly and to next time ignore his mom...
hope everyone had a merry christmas and have a happy new year!!!
Posted 29 December 2009 - 10:06 PM
Posted 30 December 2009 - 07:39 AM
Posted 30 December 2009 - 08:34 AM
During your wedding planning, you will receive LOTS of input, 99% you won't want and didn't even ask for. But, these people will THINK they're helping, so let them think that, and then immediately ignore it and do whatever it is YOU want. And if it gets too much, just smile and nod Then come on here and rant about it later lol
Posted 30 December 2009 - 03:28 PM
Posted 30 December 2009 - 03:39 PM
I'm so thankful that my ILs were not like this. They were always like "whatever Danielle wants. she's the bride" and very positive about everything. I'm sure it helped that their daughter had a DW too. And i'm sure your MIL has probably never been to a DW and your the one whose probably doing a lot of research and seeing what ideas other girls have. She has no idea how special having a DW can be, she's stuck in a big wedding at home mindset. Which is great for some people but not you. She'll get over that. And your going to hear that from a lot of people "why are you having a DW? why cant you just get married at home?" just say "that's not what i want" and ignore and ignore.
Posted 30 December 2009 - 03:45 PM
Just don't bring up the wedding in front of her. And whenever she asks (and believe me she will), just tell her that you want it all to be a surprise. Be sure to get your FI on board with the plan - otherwise she'll start in on him, too!
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Posted 31 December 2009 - 12:16 AM
wish all of you a happy new year!!!
Posted 31 December 2009 - 01:43 AM
Posted 31 December 2009 - 01:46 PM
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