| Originally Posted by A10CALGAL |
So, I sent out STD's 9 months in advance of our wedding. On the STD's I printed out wedding website where I have onlinve RSVP-ing enabled. I was hoping I'd get some idea through that function (or people just calling me) to figure out how many we will have. Well, my friends all let me know, but my damn family for the most part hasn't even bothered to call & say "yes, we'll come" or "we won't be able to make it." It almost makes me wonder whether they received the STD's...they did. So, I plan to make my RSVP by date 8 weeks prior to our wedding date. I pray that my 35-40 # I've been estimating everything on is at least close to right.
The STD/RSVP process was the most annoying thing for me. We sent out STDs 9 months in advance. Then we sent an e-mail out to have people RSVP on our website 8 months before just to get an idea of the number of people that were thinking about attending. We got about 10 responses, not even the whole wedding party responded. I know, no need since we knew they were going.... but you get the point, people really just don't make this a priority. Then the RSVPs... don't get me started! We're having a plated dinner, so I needed the RSVPs... Half of our friends never sent it back (wasted our stamps!). Most of them I had to e-mail them the dinner choices and had them choose that way.
My advice is to go as high as you can in the number you are budgeting for, and at least you will have that covered. If I had to do it again, I would have saved myself the stamps and enabled the online RSVP for the REAL RSVPs.