Splitting holidays between families
Posted 19 December 2009 - 05:35 PM
But I was wondering what everyone does for holidays? There seems to be too many family groups that want us there which is great but how do you divide everything so it's fair? I've read articles about this but most seem to only deal with just your family and your in-laws. What do you do when you have divorced and remarried families that you've always had to split holidays between, times 2?
Last year FI and I ended up not being together for the Christmas and I didn't want to do that this year but we don't want to be exhausted trying to do two family holidays in one day. It seems you can't help but offend someone.
It doesn't help that my father's family is in California so it requires a few day trip to be worth the expense which we just can't fit in this year.
I love the holidays and was loving the Christmas "spirit" until all the family politics crap showed up again. It's enough to just make me want to stay home alone with FI for the next 2 weeks.
Any advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Posted 19 December 2009 - 05:49 PM
Posted 20 December 2009 - 05:47 AM
Posted 20 December 2009 - 05:53 AM
Ultimately, do what YOU want to do. Don't worry about everyone else and their opinions, make yourselves happy because nobody else will do that for you
Posted 20 December 2009 - 08:45 AM
Maybe stay home for xmas and alternate years that you pack up and go to each family after xmas day... I don't think there is an easy answer that will take away the stress or the guilt of not doing whats expected of you. Goo Luck
Posted 20 December 2009 - 12:31 PM
Now with my FI it's a bit different. On xmas eve we'll be having dinenr with my dad's family. It's gonna end early as my grandpa gets tired quickly and then my dad has to drive him home, thus ending the party. So then we'll be heading over to my brother's place to celebrate with him and my mom. On Xmas morning we'll be starting our own little tradition as a new family (with his daughter), opening the rpesents in our stockings while eating a big breakfast. And finally we'll have dinenr with his family. He has a huge family, but luckily both his dad's and mom's sides celebrate together!!
Posted 20 December 2009 - 12:58 PM
Posted 20 December 2009 - 03:06 PM
I agree with the sentiment of do what you want. I don't know if we will still travel so much when we have kids but if we don't, we don't...
Posted 20 December 2009 - 06:01 PM
You can alternate holidays or even have them visit you for the holidays
Usually family will understand if you aren't able to make it to Christmas
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