Question about marriage blessing..

[TammyB]

Hello ladies..

 

So Cain and I did a legal wedding in Cabo, since he comes from a very religious family we talked about having our marriage blessed. OK so I'm non-denominational and Cain is Catholic. How would that work? And when do you think would be a good time to do it, maybe our 1 year anniversary?

[LCBride2007]

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Originally Posted by TammyB Hello ladies.. So Cain and I did a legal wedding in Cabo, since he comes from a very religious family we talked about having our marriage blessed. OK so I'm non-denominational and Cain is Catholic. How would that work? And when do you think would be a good time to do it, maybe our 1 year anniversary?

(of course) Paul's family is super religious as well, Irish Catholic, and they've asked when/if we're going to do this. i siad it was up to Paul - but he hasn't expressed too much interest. if we did it it would be for his parents.

but tammy - would the catholic church bless our marriage if we were divorced? this was a question i had.

[TammyB]

To my knowledge if you were married in a catholic church then no they won't bless your marriage since you were married before. But since I was married in a Lutheran church for my first marriage, the catholic religion doesn't recognize that. So we should be ok.

[LCBride2007]

ahhhh - a loop hole. perfect. i was married in a lutheran church the first time as well. (again, of course)

[TammyB]

ha ha.. seriously what don't we have in common.. lol

[LCBride2007]

we live in different states? ok, and those aren't even that different!

[Lizzy]

Ann, the church will want you to have your first marriage annulled. Especially now with this Pope. He is extremely strict about the laws of the church. He has come down really hard on this subject. If you are divorced, no sacraments, and if you know someone at mass is receiving sacraments after a divorce, he expects you to report them to the priest or Bishop! Buzz and I are Catholic and are not supposed to be allowed. Can you imagine? I wonder what the Man Upstairs thinks about all of these man made laws?

Off my soapbox...anyway, I hope this helps. Paul's family should be aware of this, but they may be expecting you to apply for the annullment. Tammy, the same for you. The priests really have no leeway on this at all. And annullments are expensive.

 

Lizzy

[TammyB]

Cains Aunt got married a month before us, she was married by her then husband's ordained judge, and for her second marriage they said it was fine because she was never married as a catholic. Could it depend on how strict the church is that you go to?

[LCBride2007]

that's what i had thought. but that's the one thing i told Paul i won't do - i won't get my first marriage annulled (sp?). i don't want to start a religious debate, but i just feel that if they (the church) can't accept me for who i am, and i am divorced, then i don't want any part of it. i won't pretend like it didn't happen - it did, i am not ashamed of it, and i am who i am partly becuase of it (along with the rest of my past). so ... this may not be happening for us!

[LCBride2007]

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Originally Posted by TammyB Cains Aunt got married a month before us, she was married by her then husband's ordained judge, and for her second marriage they said it was fine because she was never married as a catholic. Could it depend on how strict the church is that you go to?

i wondered this as well ... if it depended on which church you went to