People keep inviting themselves!!!!! I've had it!
Posted 16 December 2009 - 12:27 AM
These people are wild and crazy and will be drunken messes the whole time!
I really shouldn't seal the fate of all this before it happens I just really want the atmosphere of my wedding to be fun, yet mature and these people are b****s to the wall crazy! Right now, I have five of my friends going and my FI has over 30! Ahhh!
Posted 16 December 2009 - 12:35 AM
Spring break is exactly how I don't want it to turn out like but with FI friends, that is what it is going to be!
Good luck in whatever you chose to do...if any of it is in your hands
Posted 16 December 2009 - 12:42 AM
Posted 16 December 2009 - 02:14 PM
Posted 16 December 2009 - 04:24 PM
Posted 16 December 2009 - 04:49 PM
Now you cant stop people from going to Mexico but you can keep them from being invited to the wedding activities. I think people just assume since your having a wedding at an AI than your reception is free which is not the case. Hopefully the resort your getting married at is pretty big and has a lot of pools and a long beach, maybe you wont run into all of his crazy friends that much. Lastly maybe these people wont end up booking. The economy is pretty bad right now and its Christmas time so maybe they wont have the extra money for a Mexican vacay.
Posted 17 December 2009 - 03:03 PM
This has happened a LOT! And I have to be careful about any new people my FI meets or goes out to drinks with because he immediately invites them. His list is TWICE as long as mine because he wants to invite the world. I had a long talk with him and told him we had to limit this list to family & very close friends because we simply CANNOT afford it. I had a heart to heart and said I wish all these people could go but we just don't have the money. I think that when I broke it down to him he got it so he's not inviting additional people. But the problem now is people inviting themselves. I think that at some point I'm just going to tell people that the venue has a limited capacity and we had to keep it small so we are only inviting family.
That's always my excuse... I say it's a family affair (even though it really isn't only family). I've found people don't take it personal when you say you're only inviting family.
Posted 17 December 2009 - 07:16 PM
Hopefully, everything works out for you!!
Posted 20 December 2009 - 11:41 AM
Posted 27 December 2009 - 07:38 PM
I understand other's positions of "the more the merrier." But merrier for who? Not me! I don't even want a wedding, the justice of the peace is fine with me. My FI wanted a wedding so I agreed to do a destination wedding hoping it would be less stress/money for us. I'd rather see the $10,000 being spent on the wedding going into our down payment on the house.
Enough venting. I'm really not a wedding grinch but...
It's your day, thank those wanting to come for their willingness to want to be there but explain you are keeping the guest list to a minimum because you want an intimate wedding. When you look back at your wedding, you don't want to remember being stressed out and upset because you have more people than you wanted or have a bill that is too big. You want to look back and remember it as the day you started your lives together.
And yes- I love the "wedding crasher" t-shirt idea!!!!!
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