BMs aren't asking about throwing a shower ~ what should I do?
Posted 05 December 2009 - 09:40 PM
I have 3 bridesmaids (no MOH) and they casually mentioned a few months ago about wanting to have a shower & bachelorette for me....well my wedding is in 3 months and that was it. I think they might have forgotten. What should I do? My MIL is going to have a family shower for me, but the BMs were going to do the friend shower. How can I politely remind them that time is running out and they need to get on it?
Also, how involved is the bride supposed to be in her own shower? Do I have to help plan or purchase the food etc?
Posted 05 December 2009 - 09:49 PM
Posted 06 December 2009 - 12:08 AM
As far as the bride's involvement, typically you would just give them a list of folks to invite to the shower/bachelorette party. I've not heard of a bride paying for the food or planning her own shower.
Posted 06 December 2009 - 11:16 AM
Posted 06 December 2009 - 11:43 AM
Posted 06 December 2009 - 01:12 PM
A friend shower is important to me. Not for the gifts, but everyone in our group of friends who has gotten married has had one (or more) and I went to all of them including 2 of my BMs. Since quite a few of my friends can't come to our DW (it is mostly family coming) I would like to "feel like a bride" and celebrate my upcoming marriage with my girls.
My BMs are busy with work right now and one is planning her own wedding, so I honestly think they meant to plan a shower for me, but are so wrapped up in their own lives that they just forgot. Maybe I could gently remind them....they are my BFFs afterall....say something like, "so we talked about a shower a few months ago, and I have finally narrowed down a guest list. Do you want the addresses?" What do you think?
Fazali, as far as the bride's involvement, that's what I thought - thanks - so I don't think it is appropriate for me to plan the shower with my BMs other than give them the guest list & addresses.
Posted 06 December 2009 - 01:28 PM
Posted 06 December 2009 - 01:32 PM
Posted 06 December 2009 - 11:17 PM
Posted 06 December 2009 - 11:34 PM
If you are seriously worried they will forget maybe you could just ask when they were thinking of having it? I mean clearly it has to be on a date that you are all available, so I don't think that's being pushy since obvi the point of a shower for you would be that you were actually present at it!
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