Helping Family Financially
Posted 02 December 2009 - 04:26 PM
If we didn't do a DW, we would probably just upgrade the picnic we would have for the AHR but wouldn't spend a ton on an at-home wedding. I talked to my mom about our choices and just her know what I am able to contribute to their trip, but I'm giving her veto power on the DW because of the level of risk that they may not be able to make it. I know she really wants to make it happen since she's never been out of the country before and, of course, wants to party on a tropical island.
Has anyone else been in my situation? Am I being selfish for wanting a destination wedding when I know that it may be hard for my parents to save (the wedding would be 14+ months away)? If you've had a similar situation, what did you do to help your parents make it, if anything? If your parents weren't able to come, were there any lasting consequences? Did you regret helping or not helping your family to attend?
Thanks for listening guys - I've been a little stressed out about this lately. I know the destination wedding, once we make our plans, will cause me less stress (since I will be going with a package deal with just a couple of extras) - compared to planning a wedding with more people from a few states away.
Posted 02 December 2009 - 05:11 PM
Posted 02 December 2009 - 05:30 PM
we are having big mexican themed ahr when we come back to enjoy it with our families
Posted 02 December 2009 - 05:34 PM
Posted 02 December 2009 - 06:40 PM
Also, I hadn't even thought of the tax refund money. That's a great idea! I talked to her about using the money they get from my grandparents each Christmas but hadn't thought about the extra tax refund money that they could add in. I'm much more confident this could work out.
For anyone else who happens to be reading - I'm still interested if you contributed financially (hotel, air, both, passports, whatever) if you had family that may have had a hard time otherwise.
Posted 02 December 2009 - 09:01 PM
Posted 02 December 2009 - 11:32 PM
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Posted 03 December 2009 - 06:32 PM
Posted 04 December 2009 - 01:26 PM
We are paying for FI sister to go - she doesn't have a job and her boyfriend is in school, so he isn't working enough. We couldnt care less if he was there - so for Christmas and her birthday we are paying for her to come.
We are also PROBABLY going to have to help FI's mom and little brother to go. We think she can afford to pay for her own trip, but probably can't pay for all of the brothers.
I think if you can afford it, and if they REALLY need the help (have been trying to save but legitimate stuff keeps coming up) then do it. Especially if you really want to have them there.
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