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[MikkiStreak]

I'm going to have my brother-in-law walk me down the aisle. He and my sister have been married for 25 years and I've known him since I was about 10 years old. I spent my summers living with them and they've also been my "landing pad" in between jobs when I was younger.

Basically, he's like a surrogate dad to me since my folks can't make it to the wedding.

If for some reason my sis and him can't make it to the wedding (which I don't think would be the case), I'll walk myself...

[JaimeLynne]

I'll either be walking with my Dad or Grandpa.

[kpluse]

I say walk alone- symbolic for leaving your single life and now joining your soulmate

[gkashmira]

We didn't have any GM/BM so we did a "family" procession where it was my DH and his mom, my mom & brother, his dad and sister and then finally my and my dad.

[MikkiStreak]

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Originally Posted by kpluse I say walk alone- symbolic for leaving your single life and now joining your soulmate

I struggled with either walking alone or having my BIL walk me down the aisle. To me, not only was it fitting for leaving single life, but it also has a symbolism that the marriage is your own independent decision--- instead of in the past when it was an arranged marriage and the girls had to follow what their family wanted and it was looked at more like a change of ownership over the woman (going from father owning her to husband owning her)...

I also see some of the same spirit like in Tammy's case where she and Cain walked together--- it had a symbolism that they are both equals going into their marriage and that it was their joint decision to get married---- pretty cool folks!!

[EDYTA]

Jackie I voted alone just because I am very traditional when it comes to that...btw I am so behind on posts but I noticed that you switched your wedding location, when did that happen? and why did you decide on Dreams??

[Spazz]

Jackie,
I'm having the same problem. My dad suddenly passed away a few months ago. It was always something I dreamed of...having my dad walk me down the aisle. That is one of the reasons we're having a DW, to get away from all the traditions because it's just too hard. So, I thought I'd just walk alone. But now that it's getting closer I'm changing my mind, I may ask my brother or uncle. It will still be hard not to have my dad there, but at least I won't be alone. So, I'd ask someone close to you (even maybe your mom) to walk with you.
Lizz

[LCBride2007]

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Originally Posted by lizz10179 Jackie, I'm having the same problem. My dad suddenly passed away a few months ago. It was always something I dreamed of...having my dad walk me down the aisle. That is one of the reasons we're having a DW, to get away from all the traditions because it's just too hard. So, I thought I'd just walk alone. But now that it's getting closer I'm changing my mind, I may ask my brother or uncle. It will still be hard not to have my dad there, but at least I won't be alone. So, I'd ask someone close to you (even maybe your mom) to walk with you. Lizz

i'm so sorry for your loss, i can't image. have you thought of having something in your bouquet to honor your dad? like they have these small picture frames, you could attach it to your bouquet w/a pic of your dad - that way it will be like he IS walking you down the aisle.

[Jackie]

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Originally Posted by MikkiStreak I struggled with either walking alone or having my BIL walk me down the aisle. To me, not only was it fitting for leaving single life, but it also has a symbolism that the marriage is your own independent decision--- instead of in the past when it was an arranged marriage and the girls had to follow what their family wanted and it was looked at more like a change of ownership over the woman (going from father owning her to husband owning her)... I also see some of the same spirit like in Tammy's case where she and Cain walked together--- it had a symbolism that they are both equals going into their marriage and that it was their joint decision to get married---- pretty cool folks!!

Thats a really good way of looking at it.

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Originally Posted by EDYTA Jackie I voted alone just because I am very traditional when it comes to that...btw I am so behind on posts but I noticed that you switched your wedding location, when did that happen? and why did you decide on Dreams??

Uh, Yah long story but ultimatly switched back to what I origanally wanted all along. I just couldnt get Cabo out of my head while I was trying to plan for the Riviera.

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Originally Posted by lizz10179 Jackie, I'm having the same problem. My dad suddenly passed away a few months ago. It was always something I dreamed of...having my dad walk me down the aisle. That is one of the reasons we're having a DW, to get away from all the traditions because it's just too hard. So, I thought I'd just walk alone. But now that it's getting closer I'm changing my mind, I may ask my brother or uncle. It will still be hard not to have my dad there, but at least I won't be alone. So, I'd ask someone close to you (even maybe your mom) to walk with you. Lizz

I'm sorry, that is my problem also our father passed away last year and I am just not willing to have a traditional wedding I want to be as far away from that as possible. I was originally thinking my sisters but I dont know how the 3 of us would even fit down the aisle, It might look to funny when we have to turn sideways to actually get down the aisle part of it lol.

[CourtneyV]

Aww, after reading your reasoning I had to hesitate before answering. Personally, if it were me, I'd still walk down the aisle alone and have Aaron waiting at the alter/gazebo. But I do like the idea of just the time for the two of you. Heck, it's your day, you might as well.

Although I'm still torn (lol, can you tell?!) I voted for alone.