breakup or forgive & not forget
Posted 29 November 2009 - 05:55 PM
we were doing great then one day i woke up pissed which happened to be thankgiving day and we went to his family where they were all talking wedding stuff and i got even madder, then this weekened was great UGH
One day i'll figure myself out..one day! lol
Posted 29 November 2009 - 06:20 PM
For awhile A did the same thing. He would have bills or whatever and not tell me. He would get a lump of money and bam it was gone. I walked right up to him one day and said "I love you with all my heart but this hiding money and debt isnt going to fly" After that statement we both sat down and we over EVERYTHING. I mean that weekend we planned to have a night alone and pull out everything on the table.Yes you can have separate checking accounts and whatnot but once married to me you are in it together for the long run. I am not happy with my past and neither is A but we were both embarrassed and ashamed. After talking it has been 100% better. To this day I am balancing both our checking accounts. I let him take care of his savings in another bank because I told him that can be fun money and I can careless about it. As long as I know bills are getting paid I dont care.
I really hope it keeps going in a great direction for you both. We all have issues and its how we work through them that make us stronger. Chin up. Just try and keep the line of communication open. I always try and let A know yeah you can screw up but dont leave me in the dark. If you leave me in the dark it will get worse lets work through it together.
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Posted 01 December 2009 - 01:14 AM
Of course you're going to have days where you wake up livid! You're still hurt by what he did and it's not just going to vanish because you decided not to leave his ass! It's more than understandable you'll go through good & bad days for a while. You're really learning to trust him again and that's not a linear process. But, like Holly said, keep the communication open & both of you try to work on your individual issues (raging like a lunatic, keeping secrets, whatever they are). Keep up the good fight girl!!
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