breakup or forgive & not forget
Posted 21 November 2009 - 02:24 PM
I don't know if anyone else addressed this, but aside from the gambling the thing that jumped out at me was how he lied to his parents as well. They gave him that money in good faith to use for the wedding and 5k is not a small amount (not to me anyway). That was a lovely gesture on their part and he really disrespected them by doing what he did, as well as you. Assuming that this is out of character for him I think he may have a bigger problem with gambling than you'd realized.
All the best and once again I'm so sorry.
Posted 21 November 2009 - 03:16 PM
Posted 21 November 2009 - 03:26 PM
Posted 21 November 2009 - 04:00 PM
Dont rush on making any decisions but do think about the situation. This could be a glimpse of how things could be like in your future (especially if he has a gambling problem). This could be a blessing in disguise but if you think this is just a one time deal then I would say forgive and forget! I know it's easier said than done...
Sorry if my response goes back and forth but I really dont know your complete situation. Trust your gut!
Posted 21 November 2009 - 04:26 PM
been together for 3 & a half yrs..live together for one..both in our early 30's..when he was younger he gambled on sports..when we got together i said ill never be with him if he ever does that..he would tell me when he did it at a work pool or whatever and id get mad but he was telling me so i appreciated that..i have a strong personality with strong convictions and so what alot of people tolerate i dont (not saying with this, really with anything) other then this issue we have a great relationship, but when it comes to things he knows i dont approve of which is really only this he doesnt want to hear my mouth.
soo..with this situation he was paying off the guy he knew from before and thought hed paid it off & finished with that part without me knowing and start fresh which obviously didnt happen, there was still 3500 that was owed and since finding out this this week ive basically done all but hung him on a jury to tell me whats going on..and he swore that this was the last of it and it was from the past. im just pissed why i didnt know and so i dont want to believe him when he says its the end because i didnt know this was still owed..and thats where im at. he swears this will never happen again but who reallyknows if it will or wont and i dont want to put myself in a situation where it can...on the flip side hes an amazing guy with a heart of gold and just immature..ugh i dont know lol
Posted 22 November 2009 - 04:22 PM
Posted 22 November 2009 - 09:53 PM
Posted 23 November 2009 - 12:05 AM
but i better decide soon before i ruin not only my life
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