Guest assumes they can bring someone
Posted 12 March 2010 - 08:10 PM
Posted 12 March 2010 - 09:53 PM
I had several relatives who, after receiving the details about the wedding date and location, started inviting their co-workers, friends, neighbors, you name it!!
Once I got wind, I immediately prepared a polite but firm email explaining to them that, as much as we love their friends, that we could not afford to have the additional guests and that we would not be in a position to decide about whether we could invite more guests until we received our RSVPs (polite way of saying NEVER).
THEN, once word got out that they were thinking of inviting friends and not having them attend our wedding, I commented through other friends and family that we would feel compelled to invite these people anyway b/c how awkward is it to have them so close by and not have them at the wedding?? Thus, it would put us in an uncomfortable position.
Finally, once people suggested paying for their friends (my family is very persistent), we pointed out that if we did this, other people may want to do this and we would lose control of our guest list.
They are STILL trying to figure out ways to bring friends but so far my explanations have been sufficient. Another point I've been making is that we want a destination wedding so we can have time w/ our guests. Clearly if they bring their friends, that would defeat the purpose.
hope this helps!
Posted 13 March 2010 - 02:56 AM
Posted 16 March 2010 - 10:34 AM
Posted 16 March 2010 - 10:47 AM
Posted 16 March 2010 - 12:09 PM
Posted 16 March 2010 - 12:51 PM
| Originally Posted by Princess402 |
We have had a couple of our guests ask if it would be okay if friends of theirs, etc, came along to Mexico as well. I hope not too many people do this (and I don't think there will be) because then everyone is going to be going off with their own group of friends during the week, and not doing things "together" as we are hoping. I really want all our guests to get to know each other and have fun together the whole week! But you can't stop people from going on vacation at the same time/place you are. So for anyone that's asked we have said that it's fine for their friends to come to Mexico of course (and actually it's more than fine cause we're getting every 6th room free, so if they book with our group then it's potentially more $$ back for us!), but that unfortunately there is an additional cost per person associated with coming to the wedding and so they wouldn't be able to come to the actual wedding and reception. I think that seems reasonable and everyone has been fine with that!
Posted 17 March 2010 - 04:50 PM
1 user(s) are reading this topic
0 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous users