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#51 vdaybride

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    Posted 21 January 2010 - 10:57 PM

    Being that my wedding is on Valentine's Day, I wouldn't even think on not extending the invitee to bring a plus one! I have plenty of single friends that will be attending the wedding with a plus one that I never met, but I am still excited that they will be there on my special day.

    I would feel "a certain way" if someone expected me to travel out of the country alone. I can understand if it is a budget issue, but I wouldn't be offended if one of my single friends decided not to come because they didn't want to travel alone.

    Good luck with your situation!! That's tough. Yes get the FI to handle that! lol
    Married 2-14-2010 Dreams, Los Cabos


    #52 lowkeybride

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      Posted 21 January 2010 - 10:59 PM

      I agree as well, I would prefer that our guests don't bring guests, but I completely understand why they would want to.

      #53 miznunu2010

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        Posted 23 January 2010 - 12:11 AM

        When I invited people I assumed they were bringing someone since out resort is all inclusive and prices are based on two people!

        #54 RonNMel

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          Posted 23 January 2010 - 12:28 AM

          Originally Posted by miznunu2010
          When I invited people I assumed they were bringing someone since out resort is all inclusive and prices are based on two people!
          Yes, the price for single people ar our hotel is 400$ than double occupancy. Of course if some singles know each other they can room together, but I wouldn't see myself asking my one single female friend to go room with one of FI's single male cousin. Now, if after spending some time together on the beach they decided to room together, that wouldn't be my decision.

          #55 IrishgirlinNY

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            Posted 12 March 2010 - 12:53 PM

            Hi everyone

            I was just wondering if any of you have had to deal with guests that you are inviting to your wedding that are now inviting their friends that are not invited to your wedding. If so, what did you do? If not, what do you think? We have a friend that we invited with her boyfriend and we believe she is planning on inviting her boyfriends friends to come down to Jamaica at the same time. We invited all single guests with a guest so they would have someone there. What do you think?

            #56 barbiegirl_27

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              Posted 12 March 2010 - 01:04 PM

              We did the same, opened the singles up to bringing a guest as occupancy at a resort is based on double, and single is really expensive. The problem is that you can't tell people they can't go on vacation.....but I would put my foot down at them coming to the wedding. Maybe they're assuming that b/c it's an all inclusive that you aren't having to pay for meals or drinks.....maybe make them aware that the wedding packages are seperate.

              #57 Princess402

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                Posted 12 March 2010 - 01:18 PM

                We have had a couple of our guests ask if it would be okay if friends of theirs, etc, came along to Mexico as well. I hope not too many people do this (and I don't think there will be) because then everyone is going to be going off with their own group of friends during the week, and not doing things "together" as we are hoping. I really want all our guests to get to know each other and have fun together the whole week! But you can't stop people from going on vacation at the same time/place you are. So for anyone that's asked we have said that it's fine for their friends to come to Mexico of course (and actually it's more than fine cause we're getting every 6th room free, so if they book with our group then it's potentially more $$ back for us!), but that unfortunately there is an additional cost per person associated with coming to the wedding and so they wouldn't be able to come to the actual wedding and reception. I think that seems reasonable and everyone has been fine with that!

                #58 YIweddings

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                  Posted 12 March 2010 - 01:30 PM

                  I have the same problem. My cousin has invited her parents and another set of aunt/uncle. I wasn't planning on inviting them because there is no chance in the world I'm inviting the other aunt I do not like and their brother (aka so called dad) and didn't want to start an issue. Oh well, they can fight it out thesleves. Having an few extra people gets me closer to the 15 rooms I need to get the free wedding package. Another group my cousin invited are aware they can come to Punta Cana whenever/where ever but I'm not giving OOT bags or feeding them. I thought I would be upset if my cousin spent all her with them but I have a lot of people to be with and I know she won't disappoint me when it counts.
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                  #59 michelle10

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                    Posted 12 March 2010 - 06:04 PM

                    what I personally think it is very tacky to invite other friends with you if they weren't invited to the wedding. I can't imagine anyone doing that! Just my two cents, and I hope not to offend anyone. To me it is the recipe for lots of drama/issues.

                    #60 IrishgirlinNY

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                      Posted 12 March 2010 - 07:46 PM

                      I wasn't planning on giving OOT bags or favors to anyone except who we invite to the wedding. I do understand that some people will not know everyone, but that is why I thought we would invite everyone with a guest. I know there is nothing we can do as to others coming, Jamaica is a public place. I just feel that it is our wedding. People are coming for a few days, but I hoped that they would see this is for our wedding. Michelle10, I hope our guests think the way you do. My fiance is very worried about this. Thanks for all the input. Guess we will see what happens.

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