| Originally Posted by TonyandTricia |
I agree with others that since it is a destination wedding I wouldn't ever expect anyone to come alone...even if they do know other people there. If my fiance isn't invited to something that I am paying over $1000 to go to I'm probably not going. If my guests are paying that much money I want them to feel comfortable and be with their significant others or whomever they want to share the trip with...because let's face it....yes, we are getting married there, but to them this is a vacation!!! My wedding just happens to also be going on! My family is planning their golf schedules and I had to remind them that they can't golf on Friday...that's the day I'm getting married! Haha! I think you have to consider them and their investments that they are making to come to your wedding.
If you really don't want them there, you should put on the RSVP that "_____ number of seats have been reserved in your honor." This is what we are going for the AHR so that Mr. and Mrs. Jones don't bring their four kids!! But for the wedding, we are not excluding anyone.
Part of the problem is that our website just has a general request for RSVP's...totally my fault and not the fault of my guests. I like the language that you selected here...I am going to have to do something like this for our invites. Just to be clear...significant others are invited....other plus ones...are not. This is something that can quickly get out of hand. Not knowing if I am going to have 100 or 50 people means that I have to tow the line very carefully.
The whole thing is enough to make you drink. We have folks whom are not invited practically begging to attend while others whom were actually invited have said nothing!! It's crazy....I can't imagine how nuts it becomes as the date grows closer.
A friend of my FI's mother whom was invited as a courtesy because my FI's mother knew that she would not attend, has asked if her son and his friend can go in her place !!! I think NOT!!! LOL We are not just throwing some random party here....we are celebrating a lifetime union!! WHAT are some people thinking?