| Originally Posted by carly |
I'm sorry that you feel that she brings negativity to everything related to your / your wedding. But I think you may need to take a step back. This is YOUR wedding, not hers. You are living your life, and she is living hers. Sometimes we lose sight of the fact that not everyone's life is revolved around our weddings. I know I had those moments anyway. But you really can't be mad that she's pregnant. The fact that she recently suffered a miscarriage is all the more reason for you to be understanding of what she's been thru.
| Originally Posted by Holly22 |
I guess I have to read the whole thread because how can you be upset with someone for being pregnant? I guess it can go two ways. Maybe she is not being supportive about your wedding but now your not being supportive of her pregnancy. I would assume she came out running happy because miscarriages are devastating. She went through something horrible and is probably happy. Maybe in a nice way say it might be easier for her not to be in the wedding party? That way its not as much pressure on you. Thats the hard part about destination weddings. Not everyone can make it for personal reasons. My best friend just got married. She told me they are trying to get pregnant so we thought it was best for her to not be in the wedding party. My wedding is in April as well. If she doesn't then I will try and add her in later.
I'm sure alot of the focus will be on her. She is having their grandchild. I don't think she got pregnant to ruin your wedding. As long as you and your soon to be hubby are there I'm sure it will be perfect! Try not to stress... Its so hard not to tho : )
I agree with both of the above. Regardless of the other problems you are having with your SIL, her pregnancy is something that I would think you should be happy about. It's not up to you to determine how soon she should get pregnant after a miscarriage. You should try to be the bigger person and be happy for her and her baby even if she's acting like she's not happy about your wedding. This wedding is about you and your FI. It's so easy to get wrapped up in it but you have to realize that everyone else has other things happening in their lives and your wedding won't always take precedence. Best of luck to you!