Family is driving me nuts!

[mrscheeze]

i hope everything works out for, as if just planning the wedding isnt stressful enough! this may be the only reason i am glad we are paying for everything ourselves

[*kellis*]

You know, right about now I wish we were. Even if it meant a backyard wedding with a white dress from Target(which is not a dig on anyone, I seriously love Target). But the way my family works, to deny them a part in the wedding would be really offensive.

[jen_trev]

Any update? Did you end up booking?

[McToasty]

wow just reading all that already gave me a headache. My heart goes out to you!!! I hope it all works out. Update us!

[*kellis*]

Okay so update...Sorry it has taken me so long, FI and I moved 2 days before Christmas and things have been crazy since. And we still don't have internet. I've been going crazy trying to plan this wedding without being able to be on the internet everyday. My BlackBerry has been a lifesaver in letting me check my e-mail and facebook.

 

The contract has been signed and deposit paid, finally. And thankfully everything that needs to be decided with the resort FI and I get to handle ourselves since my dad is in another state and can't make it to the menu tastings etc.

I have been so stressed out the last few weeks because we're running out of time and I'm getting tired of finding great vendors who tell me they aren't available on our date(most notably photographers).

My mom and I went to a bridal show last weekend and that helped a ton in giving me more options for vendors and discounts. And I also won a prize at their fashion show, a candy buffet for up to 50 people, worth $450! I think we'll probably use that for my shower to help out my MOH (who is in another state and who knows how much planning she'll be able to do.) But it made the planning fun again.

This month I've gotten a bunch done and I'm proud of myself for that. I got my wedding dress ordered! The place was great, they even paid for a rush on it(otherwise I would be getting the dress in with less than a month before the wedding to get it altered.) We found a place for our rehearsal dinner, AND we have engagement pictures planned this Tuesday, the 19th by an awesome photographer(who unfortunately is booked on our wedding date but who has been really helping me out by referring me to some great people).

 

Slowly but surely I'm getting things done and trying so hard not to stress about the money thing.

 

Thanks for all the good vibes.

[Sylvie143]

Girl, I am so sorry that you are going through this, my heart goes out to you. Try to stay optimistic and not let this ruin your planning. I know it's easier said than done. Good luck with everything!

[svetayasofiya]

Sounds like things are coming together! YAYAYAY Mmmm a candy buffet, that sounds like fun!

[aripk001]

I am so sorry that your dad is causing you so much stress. Congrats on getting some things in place, I am sure that has given you some piece of mind.

I have spent most of my night crying because my mother pretty much told me that she isnt coming to the wedding. she is afraid of flying, and I know that ( I will spare you the back-story but needless to say my mom and I have strained relationship-she has some pretty serious issues that she has never dealt with) but I thought maybe she would express some desire to be there. I don't understand why she can't just take some valium and get on a plane with my dad. She is laying a guilt trip on me because "I knew that she CAN'T fly," and I still decided to plan a wedding somewhere that she would have to fly to get to. dont mind the fact that this is my wedding and I have been wanting to get married on a beach in Mexico for years, pretty much since I started taking spanish classes in 9th grade. I probably sound like an insensitive you know what but most of my life I have thrown aside what I wanted in order to try to make my mom happy, and to no avail. This is my wedding and I am not willing to compromise on what I want, but if course I am incredibly hurt that she didnt even entertain the thought of coming. I am fortunate in the fact that I have some good friends that I know will be there and be incredibly happy to share in our special day, but isn't your mom supposed to be the one who is happiest for you?!? I am sure by the time the day rolls around I will be ok with it and won't let it ruin my day, but right now I am just really upset about it!

Ok, thanks for letting me vent ladies! Hope your families are being more supportive than mine.