Biggest Destination Wedding Stress factor - what's yours?
Posted 19 November 2009 - 12:01 AM
Posted 19 November 2009 - 04:05 AM
| Originally Posted by KittenHeart |
Haha I know right! She assures me she won't let him knock her up until afterwards but that's not too easy to control when not on birth control.
Yeah my MOH has two kids as well and is trying to figure out all these difficult alternatives and staying in a timeshare etc. Drives me mad.
Extended family hasn't responded at all to anything I've sent out, fine, my mom and brother don't have the money and don't seem like they want to come. I told my mother I'd pay for the entire trip and a new bathings suit as well to see what she'd say and her response is, "well, I don't like flying either." So I'm thinking she doesn't want to come. It's terribly upsetting to me but if she doesn't want to be there, why should I force her and waste my own money. My father passed away years ago so he's really the only one with a legitimate excuse
OMG I'm so sorry to hear that about your mom and brother! I can't comprehend behavior like that from a parent no less At the end of the day, what's important is that you and your new hubby are together but still. I really hope they come around for you!
Posted 19 November 2009 - 04:16 AM
| Originally Posted by sammysgirl |
lately I've been pretty stresesd about the fact that not that many of my friends/family are going to be able to attend. I have second guessed my decision to have a dw wedding probably a million times, but a dw wedding was the only way we could come up with to stay within our budget and have an AMAZING wedding (with an AHR).
I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that if just a few close friends and family members are there for our dw wedding that I will be happy....
I'm sure I'll be stressed about something else next week! Ha!
Posted 19 November 2009 - 04:22 AM
We are trying absolutely everything possible to bring the room rates down for our guests but they're still not as low as I'd like. We are promising to bring over 150 people to the hotel (!!!) but the freaking place still wont budge!!!!!
I guess the bigger factor is that I feel guilty about asking our guests, esp. certain families w/ kids, to pay to attend our wedding. We have yet to formally announce the date, hotel, details, etc. but I'm already bracing myself for the response. Fortunately, my FI and I are from opposite sides of the country so at least 1/2 the party would have had to travel ANYWAY but still... my FMIL (though I love her) has dropped subtle hints as in "well, if you'd been getting married in a hometown, at least SOME ppl would be spared the expense..."
I'm already tired and we have yet to put down a deposit!!!
Posted 19 November 2009 - 04:43 AM
MY biggest stressor has been my WC. At first I thought she was awesome, but thanks to this site I have all this info on things like prices etc. So when I get told something is only $20/hr or $8/person and then she send me info saying the $20/hr does not exist it will cost me $400USD and that it is really $18/person....I find that frustrating. That part of the email annoys me....I am a bit of a control freak about this sort of thing and sometimes am tempted to just phone and get this all sorted out in one long expensive call so that I can go back to my DIY projects!
All I can say is Thank Gosh! for this forum!
Posted 19 November 2009 - 10:44 AM
You'd mentioned just calling your WC to work a bunch of stuff out and I thought I would mention that the best way to do that is buying a CiCi calling card. They have probably the best one around... no connection fees and I think on my $20 card I got something around 400 minutes which has been more than enough for the handful of calls that I've had to make to Mexico so far! You can pick them up at most convenient stores or gas stations. Sorry for sounding like a commercial but I hope it helps!!
Posted 19 November 2009 - 11:20 AM
Now we are some what having the same problems with my FI best friend. They kept saying they are going to the wedding when the wedding is brought up, but then the next min. they are talking about how they don't have any money. Then they make the point to tell us about all the trips they are taking. I understand everyone has their own lifes and that is fine by us, but please just be up front with us and let us know either way if you will be able to go or not. Our feelings won't be hurt, but we just need to know.
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Posted 19 November 2009 - 12:29 PM
** BE PREPARED FOR LONG RANT **
1) She calls my younger brother, who stays with me, and goes on and on about how it's a recession and no one can afford to come to the Bahamas, and that NO one on her side of the family is coming, and that I should just have it in Baton Rouge, LA. Which is strange, because my uncle, her younger brother, is already making plans to go. My grandmother bought a $1400 stove last month... yes just the stove was $1400. Then she takes it one step further just to be spiteful and says that no one is going to come to my wedding including the bridal party. She doesn't even know who is in the bridal party. My brother tells her that the bridal party is staying with us in the beach house and has already paid their deposit, and then she is once again speechless. Then he tells her that my aunt, my dad's sister, is coming, and when she finds out she's coming, then she says she might come but she has to check her finances. She can come because my aunt is coming, but she can't come because I AM HER ONLY DAUGHTER. Just LAST month, she was going car shopping for a new car, because her MERCEDES was acting up, and she has TWO other vehicles that she barely drives. My younger brother has been with me since July, so she hasn't had to pay his $400 rent and give him money for food. Then, she asks about my husband's side of the family, and my brother, I don't know why, told her that we were paying for my FIL to come and he's staying a week in the Bahamas in the Beach House with us and watching my son. He's 66, retired, and doesn't care, he's just happy to go to the Bahamas and spending time with his grandson is a BONUS. My FIL raised my husband by himself so of course my husband is going to make sure his dad is there. Then she was like, maybe if she paid for me, I would come...now she's jealous. My FIL lives on Social Security and in no way could afford to come on his own, plus he is the Best Man. My mom is a software engineer and gets paid more than I do. She has failed to realize that I could care LESS if she came, and would rather prefer if she didn't, because I don't need her negativity and selfishness. She can either continue to b***h and get uninvited or just save her money, come to the Bahamas, and shut it up!
Posted 19 November 2009 - 02:40 PM
on a sidenote, I am so sick of not getting emails returned!!! I mean do these people want my money or not I know that different parts of the world have their own ideas of customer service, but it's so hard to be patient when all you want to do is decide between 2 photographers so that you can put down a deposit!!!!
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