My fiance and I came into the idea of a destination wedding- that it would work out for everyone, and be less stressful than planning a wedding here due to all of the people we would need to invite so people wouldn't get offended (his family consists of half the town!) We thought that not being in charge of planning EVERYTHING, that it may be less stressful (we both have incredibly stressful, and time consuming jobs) and that getting married somewhere warm and tropical would be soooo dreamy
our main goal was to get married where we wanted, with the people we wanted. Somewhere warm, and pretty, and I wanted my blue orchids and lillys. We decided to get married in Mexico, so that it wouldn't be too expensive for people to go.
Now I'm starting to think we should just bag the whooolle thing-
We origionally only wanted my parents, his parents, and our "best man & MOH"- This quickly turned into
1. My parents nearly insisted that they wanted my brother and his wife (I HATE his wife btw) to go. After wards they refused to pay for them. So we prepared to pay for the trip without complaint, and they contact us stating that they want to stay LONGER than we were booking them for!! and that they will pay for the extra days (these two already owe us a bunch of money) I love my brother to death, but his wife and I have NEVER gotten along- Everytime we see eachother I end up hearing all of the things I did, and said that were wrong. We can't stand eachother, and now I have to spend $2300 (thats almost how much we are paying for our wedding!) to ensure that they go. I know it's not that big of a bitch, but when I'm spending that much money on someone that I don't even like, and never even wanted there, my feelings of resentment start kicking in...
2. Being called selfish -FYI we picked somewhere that we felt would be cheaper so people COULD afford to go. My fiance's parents took it into their own hands to invite who they wanted, they insisted that they wanted his sister, grandmother, and her grandmothers boyfriend to go. there was only a couple of people extra, and they said that they would pay for them. Biting my tongue I said "fine". Now we hear complaining about how much it is going to cost to get everyone over there. THEY ARE THE ONES THAT INVITED THEM.. and now it's our fault....?
After dealing with these two incidents I felt it was needed- I invited my girlfriend and her dad (who has played a big role for me in the past). We werent supposed to have that many people, but everyone making decisions without even consulting me fueled me to go ahead and invite someone that I actually wanted at my wedding.
3. I'm the type of person that is constantly ontop of what needs to be done. I'd go ahead and classify myself as fairly impatient.
I know that the wedding coordinators have ALOT to do, I can only image the "bridezillas" that they have to deal with. But I'll send out an e-mail, and it will take 2 weeks to get a response to a couple of questions.
We haven't heard anything since we made our deposit (a week and a half ago) So I'm not even sure if they have recieved it yet. I don't complain about it to my fiance, or harrass the wedding coordinator (I send her about 1 email per week with everything). But it's incredibly frustrating trying to get planning done when it takes a week to get my questions answered. (I don't have an international phone, so I can't call either..)
4. My flowers- it was on the list of two things that I desperately wanted in a wedding (warmth, and my orchids). I thought that mexico would be warm enough to cater to the needs of growing orchids. Come to find out they are incredibly expensive, so expensive that we can't afford them..
On the happy note of things I don't think were going to be changing much though. We want to get married where we want, and if people don't like it, then they don't have to go. It sure doesn't help when personal issues start getting introduced on top of everything that a bride ALREADY has to deal with to plan a decent wedding.
- I feel better already