Biggest Destination Wedding Stress factor - what's yours?

[theend903]

My stress is that everyone was so excited at first, now I keep hearing about people talking behind my back about how selfish I am that I chose to do a destination wedding. This is the reason I chose to leave the country for my wedding in the first place...so that the people I was obligated to invite at home won't be able to make it and only my closest family and friends will be there to share my day!!

[barbiegirl_27]

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Originally Posted by theend903 My stress is that everyone was so excited at first, now I keep hearing about people talking behind my back about how selfish I am that I chose to do a destination wedding. This is the reason I chose to leave the country for my wedding in the first place...so that the people I was obligated to invite at home won't be able to make it and only my closest family and friends will be there to share my day!!

I love how honest you are! I completely agree though! Having a destination wedding means not having all those extra people there that you didn't really want in the first place!

[mnh1983]

The biggest stressors for me are figuring out who will be coming so I can plan everything and trying to explain to hurt friends why we are having a small wedding party.

[ladebug577]

Hands down picking the resort!!!!!!!!!!!!! And then after that just not gettting to meet the people I am dealing with!!!

[sweetluna]

Oh I'm so glad that I found this forum! When I feel like I must be crazy, I read here there are so many other brides feeling the same way. I have been so stressed that people are not booking and those who were "so on board" when we first started are now giving me the silent treatment rather than "fess up" they can't go. I don't even care that they can't go (I mean,yes I'm disappointed but I realize it's expensive so I'm not mad if they can't go) I'm just hurt & angry that they wouldn't talk to us! My budget has changed so many times because I have NO CLUE who is actually going and how many people to plan for!

After reading this, I'm so glad that I'm not the only one.

[lalanyc]

My biggest stress factor (anger?) is dealing w/ Mexico vendors who quote me OUTRAGEOUS prices and are clearly price gouging. Understanding what things cost in LA and NYC, it's ridiculous to receive prices that are 20%, 50% or even 100% more than what I would pay there. I dont know if they have gotten away w/ these prices w/ unsuspecting brides, but there's no way I'm falling for it.

[CND_Redhead]

Our DW is still a while away but a stressor of mine is actually my FI. lol

I keep trying to sit down with him and "include him in decisions" and such, and he keeps giving me the "WE HAVE A YEAR, THERE IS LOTS OF TIME"

Seriously I don't want to hear that anymore. I'm a fairly anal person and like to have things organized, so I don't think it's a big deal to start planning now.

Besides, I want to find deals on summer stuff so if I know what I want now, I can research and find stuff when it does go on sale and know it's a good sale! Is that asking too much?

 

Anyway, I guess it's not a stressor as other people have, but it's my urgggg moment right now!

Cheers,

[Mrs.G2B]

What isnt stressful??...Im a year away and Im already stressed with all these decisions, not to mention my parents last minute decision of being unsupportive of our DW. I think the biggest challenge will be getting the final head count. How soon is everyone sending out their invites? I'm sending the STD out ASAP. I just dont know what time is good for actual invites, I want to know headcount ASAP also.

[mjm]

So far my biggest stress has been one of my bridesmaids. My advice is to be careful who you ask to be your bridesmaid and ensure that you tell them who will be paying for the dress!

[carolina24]

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Originally Posted by CND_Redhead Our DW is still a while away but a stressor of mine is actually my FI. lol I keep trying to sit down with him and "include him in decisions" and such, and he keeps giving me the "WE HAVE A YEAR, THERE IS LOTS OF TIME" Seriously I don't want to hear that anymore. I'm a fairly anal person and like to have things organized, so I don't think it's a big deal to start planning now. Besides, I want to find deals on summer stuff so if I know what I want now, I can research and find stuff when it does go on sale and know it's a good sale! Is that asking too much? Anyway, I guess it's not a stressor as other people have, but it's my urgggg moment right now! Cheers,

trust me babe, it doesnt get any better as your date gets closer...i've finally just let go of trying to get him involved, i make decisions and then show him whats happening or what ive chosen and (fingers crossed) he likes it. it's not that they don't care, they just think differently. all he cares about is that you are going to be his wife...not the flowers, cake, colors, etc. thats what you have us for !!