That was pretty much our situation. We both have been married before, we're 50+, and both had so much stuff when we moved in together 10 years ago added to all of the things we've purchased together over the last 10 years, we really didn't want gifts. We considered a registry but there truly was nothing that we could have used. We didn't put anything on paper though, and from everything I read that isn't the proper etiquette to do. We put the word out through family that there weren't any gifts we needed and it just seemed to take care of itself. We did get quite a bit of money, but we also got a quite a few gift cards, one of which was a gift card for a romantic weekend getaway to Niagara on the Lake. We thought that was an awesome idea. We also got a couple of restaurant gift cards that we're really happy about. So there are ways to get around the "monetary" end of it. Our kids all live far away so for birthdays now instead of sending money we send a gift card. That way we know they use it on themselves instead of taking money and paying a bill with it or getting groceries or something. The other thing to find out is if they're going on a honeymoon and instead of giving money we heard that you can put money on the honeymoon trip. As to the wedding being off and on, lol we went through all of that too, but only because we didn't end up with people to go to Jamaica. We tried doing a wedding here at home, but in the end we did what we really wanted, which was Jamaica by ourselves, and had a reception for about 30 people when we got home. I'm not sure I can recommend anything on that part except don't buy the gift until right before the wedding and take it with you in case it does get called off! Best of luck!
Originally Posted by Kim Deslippe
Question, not sure if this is something new or I've just never see it before.
We received a wedding invite from my finances Aunt for her wedding in May, which is also away but in Niagara Falls (about 4hr drive for us), so most people will probably book a room for the night, not an issue. I look at the back of the reply card and it has a tag that says "Monetary wedding, No gifts please". Now, I took this as we don't want gifts but give us money. They are an older couple and she has been married before, so I can understand if they really don't need anything but isn't that what registry's are for, to register for what you do need. Just thought it was a little bold asking for only money from guests and my other concern is that this wedding has been on and off about 3 times now.
On another note, totally scored some new luggage the other day, which I desperately needed! Was at Costco and they had Heys TekLight Lightweight Spinner 3 pc set for $199.99, awesome deal. It has a 30", 26" and 21"; there is so much room in them and gonna come in so handy with wedding supplies. Can't wait to try them out next month when we go to Costa Rica for a week.