| Originally Posted by hat0112 |
I agreed with a few members above, it is YOUR DAY AND YOUR WEEK! She had her's and you shouldn't have to share that. I wouldn't share any part of my week with anyone. I am getting married in Aruba and will be there for 10 days and after the day after brunch I don't want to see anyone but my future husband! I think you should talk to her and be honest. Your day should be exactly the way you want it.
Asked to share wedding week by friend- vent/help!!
Posted 06 November 2009 - 01:27 PM
Posted 06 November 2009 - 05:11 PM
I have a cousin that is getting married next year as well, who wasn't invited to the wedding, tell me that she wanted to come so she could combine my wedding with her honeymoon. That ticked me off and this is way worse. I hope this works out how you want.
Posted 06 November 2009 - 05:49 PM
I'm not saying that there can't be a compromise made, but it kind of sucks that you should have to compromise on anything in regards to your wedding. Since she already threw the idea out there you have to deal with it somehow, so you basically have 2 options.
1) You stand your ground and find a gentle way to tell her that she already had her time in the spotlight, and you were really hoping that this week could be all about you and your FI. She may not like your feedback and you have to realize that she may just do what she wants anyway. I would hope that she'd be respectful of your feelings, but be prepared for the worst.
2) You have an honest conversation on how you can make both events happen while still being respectful about making your wedding the priority event of the week. And I'd make sure to vent any concerns that you have upfront. If you don't do it now, you'll just keep it bottled up inside and it's going to keep eating away at you until you're miserable. And that's no way to spend the months leading up to your wedding.
Either option will require open honest communication, and you have to remember that you may not get your way since she can ultimately do what she wants, with or without your approval. I have my fingers crossed for you that she can be respectful about this being your special day
Keep us posted on how things progress!
Posted 07 November 2009 - 07:43 PM
Posted 07 November 2009 - 09:16 PM
Good luck with whatever you decide!!!!
Posted 09 November 2009 - 12:28 PM
| Originally Posted by Debs |
I actually disagree with you. You totally contradicted yourself. Yes it's your DAY, but it's your guest's week. They are not tied to you all week, and you just admitted you don't want to see anyone for the rest of the week so they should be free to do what they want.
Well I am assuming she will be invited to her friend's vow renewal and will have to go to that during her honeymoon? How rude. It's unfair of her friend to ask her to share spotlight that day, week, anything. Her friend needs to have her vow renewal during an entire separate occasion. I donâ€™t care if every single person she wanted at her vow renewal is at her wedding and her location is the exact location she wants it in. There are 52 weeks in a year, pick a different one.
I love being a Mrs.!
Posted 09 November 2009 - 12:36 PM
Hopefully you figure it out and noones feelings get hurt..
Posted 09 November 2009 - 12:38 PM
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Posted 09 November 2009 - 07:31 PM
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