I need to vent & get some moral support :(
Posted 02 November 2009 - 09:12 PM
I have a friend who had a Man of Honor as well and I would like to second the idea of mixing men and women on either side of the bridal party to have him closest to you. You can have the two girls as bridesmaids and they should understand that you want your close family member to have the honor role. I also want to second the advice to not stress yourself crazy over this as it really shouldn't be stressful -- it is your wedding
Posted 02 November 2009 - 09:44 PM
Posted 04 November 2009 - 05:07 PM
| Originally Posted by Debs |
This is a DW, so in my opinion traditions are out the door. I would say I'm just having all bridesmaids, no MOH. or have your cousin as your guy of honour. Like you said, it'll relieve the pressure!
sorry, i'm getting side tracked here! but i wouldn't ask your younger cousin if you don't want too.....think about who knows you and your FI the best and who you feel you could pick up the phone and call right now and cry to about anything...that should help you pick your answer.
Posted 04 November 2009 - 06:01 PM
You are in a really difficult position but it is your wedding and you should do whatever makes you happy!
Posted 04 November 2009 - 07:32 PM
It never even occured to me the idea of not having a MOH. I think that is the perfect solution. I won't have a MOH that way none of the girls will be offended.
I'll have my guy cousin in the wedding party whether it's on my side or my FI's side - either way he's close to both of us and everyone knows that he's like a brother to me so he's up there representing me. I was a bridesmaid in his wedding and I can't imagine not having him up there with me on that special day. I can't believe I was even considering not including him just to make **other** people happy. As you have all said it's my day so I should do what makes me happy.
I'll have my younger cousin do a reading and hopefully that will ease that concern.
Why do people get crazy when it comes to OTHER people's weddings I don't understand why everyone doesn't just let the bride & groom enjoy that day to the absolute fullest free of judgments, forced traditions and OPINIONS. Thanks for putting things in perspective everyone!
Posted 05 November 2009 - 12:24 AM
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Posted 05 November 2009 - 09:54 AM
| Originally Posted by YaelM |
I think you need to do what you want to do! I say go for haivng your cousin be your best man - i think there is nothing wrong with that! For your younger cousin...could he be incorporated in some other way in the wedding...like being an usher or doing a reading. I guess it comes to whats going to be more difficult for you...haivng him in your wedding party or upsetting your aunt. Could you maybe have your mom talk to your Aunt and mention you want to keep the BP super small...
Good luck! Try not to let this ruin your planning process!
Posted 05 November 2009 - 10:13 AM
Good Luck and keep us posted on what you have decided!!
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