Posted 03 July 2007 - 12:29 AM
This is among many, many things! I need a break!
Posted 03 July 2007 - 12:58 AM
How are you asking him to do things? Is it just bickering at him once you are already irritated? This might not work so well. I would try and have a heart to heart w/ him and just lay it out there. Tell him that you are really frustrated and there won't be many things you will ask of him, but there will be a couple and that he needs to realize that you need his support and attention right now. Maybe he just doesn't realize how important this is to you??
Posted 03 July 2007 - 01:10 AM
This is the most he has ever been involved in anything...ask him about buying a house and he doesnt care....ask him about a logo or a STD and he is all over that! ha!
I am sorry you are going through that!!!
Posted 03 July 2007 - 02:00 AM
Posted 03 July 2007 - 02:26 AM
We fought through the whole process.
Well....now that we decided to just do it...elope but actually it's not since we have 17 people with us....we both have calmed down...
We didn't do invites, programs, plan out music, anything...I just told Maye that I wanted it on the beach, I picked the flowers and it will now be a relaxed wedding....
Anyways...back to my point...no Erik didn't help he was more of a pain then anything else.
Posted 03 July 2007 - 03:11 AM
Mine was involved to a certain degree but basically told me to do what I want. I always showed him options and asked his input though. He told me it's my superbowl (lol) and that guys don't fantasize about weddings as children like many little girls do, so a lot of men just aren't in to the minute details. It doesn't necessarily mean they don't care but we are wired differently and that tends to manifest itself in the whole wedding planning process. I bet a small percentage actually care about std's, invitations, and centerpieces - but sometimes they play along to keep the peace.
It gets overwhelming sometimes, I understand, but hang in there!! The main thing is that he will be there, and as long as he knows he can't come back later and say "why did you pick purple?" or something to that effect, don't sweat it. Enjoy having creative control )
Posted 03 July 2007 - 03:14 AM
| Originally Posted by DREA14369 |
Well....now that we decided to just do it...elope but actually it's not since we have 17 people with us....we both have calmed down...We didn't do invites, programs, plan out music, anything...I just told Maye that I wanted it on the beach, I picked the flowers and it will now be a relaxed wedding....
Posted 03 July 2007 - 08:18 AM
Granted, we haven't really started planning anything, but I've told him I'd like him to be in charge of all the music and for him to look for ceremony wording that he likes so we can write our own ceremony and vows, etc... he's receptive, but he's also a procrastinator, so I expect he'll wait until the final hour and then pull it together.
I also think that a lot of men wait until the last moment to do most everything because they don't realize how much effort it could take. You may want to sit down and go over a timeline so he understand how long it could take to find his attire and get it fitted as needed.
Hate to say it, but for a lot of men, you have to do the same things you do with toddlers and small children--- point them in the direction to start and then pick things out and give them choices on those items you already picked.
Posted 03 July 2007 - 09:18 AM
The very next day I made a Ta-Da list. It is very easy to do and you can just email it to him and tell him to put his initials next to the things he will do. Mine ended up taking stuff I didn't think he would do. If you each choose things you are good at then it will work out.
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