AHR or no AHR??
Posted 16 November 2009 - 08:38 PM
Personal choice though. I think and AHR would be fun just not for me.
Posted 16 November 2009 - 08:40 PM
I really think that's the beauty of a DW - all the rules go out the window!! No one "expects" anything to be a certian way, and you have flexibility and creativity with planning both your DW as well as the AHR (if you decide to have one).
Posted 16 November 2009 - 09:41 PM
We were but now aren't 100% decided.
I just really am not feeling an AHR anymore, b/c of the added expense, stress and drama. But so many family members are unable to attend (like none of FI's siblings can make it over only 2 of his cousins and his parents). And so many have been asking if we are doing one. I'm shooting for a New Year's Eve party just to show the video, pictures and have hors d'oeuvres. FMIL offered to have it at a rec center and pay but failed to ask me or run it by me first. I told my fiance it would be nice if she asked first but I NEVER heard mention I was COMPLETELY turned off by a rec center wedding anyways esp one where I wouldn't be included in much of the planning which is what it seemed like.
Formal or casual?
I wouldn't want it to be too formal. If I had my way I'd really just have a New Year's Eve party.
What made you decide to have one if you are?
What's turning me off and away from it is what was my main drive for the DW, the added expense and stress. I love my friends and family but...I dunno, I just don't want to be bothered.
Posted 16 November 2009 - 10:50 PM
I wouldn't have changed the way we did it - but for some reason forgot that it meant I would have to pay for photographer, hair and makeup twice. Also, had to get my dress cleaned in between the wedding and the reception. All of the extras do add up. But we both loved the way we planned it, and had nice tans at the AHR to boot!
Posted 17 November 2009 - 09:40 AM
Formal or casual? medium.. rented a beach side reception hall and re-wearing the wedding clothes (no groomsmen bridesmaids will be there), but doing a Caribbean theme (rum punch, jerk chicken etc) and having a DJ
What made you decide to have one if you are? FI and I didnt want one to begin with but initially the parentals were kind of sad to have a DW, because a lot of their local friends would be unable to make the journey... thus we started out... We thought we'd have something really casual at my parents house but then that became too much "work" and so I just rented somewhere (and am trying do keep it simple causal and our style (as opposed to my moms)
Posted 17 November 2009 - 05:52 PM
I love being a Mrs.!
Posted 17 November 2009 - 06:00 PM
Are you having one? - YES
Formal or casual? - FANCY CASUAL - IF THAT MAKES SENSE - SUNDRESSES AND USING GLASSWARE, ETC
What made you decide to have one if you are? - MY FIANCE HAS 4 STEP SIBLINGS THAT WE KNOW COULD NOT ATTEND DUE TO COST. I HAVE ONLY 4 COUSINS THAT I DID NOT INVITE TO MEXICO. SO, IT JUST MADE SENSE TO HAVE THE STATESIDE RECEPTION FOR EVERYONE WE WERE NOT INVITING TO MEXICO.
I do have to say that my Dad is paying for a lot of my wedding and local reception. I am sure we'd still have a party afterwards, but I think it might have been smaller (like only family), and at a restaurant. We are having a catered party at a club house on the Chesapeake Bay for 100-110 people.
Posted 17 November 2009 - 06:05 PM
Posted 17 November 2009 - 08:01 PM
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