I am in the pre-planning stages and I already know there will be family drama when we do decide to send out invites/tell family. My FI has 7 siblings and I have 4. Im glad to see I'm not the only one dealing with family issues. We have issues trying to get everybody together for Thanksgiving!!!
I am still trying to decide on a destination partly due to I really want as much of our family there as possible. (For Example: St Thomas vs Jamaica - way more all-inclusive resorts) But then again, I dont want to choose a destination based on this factor and then have people back out, which I know some will. I realize in life, that people do what they want to do when they want to do it. And while I want to take other people's feelings into consideration concerning our wedding, I also want to do what's best for me and my FI. Is that selfish?
We're already strapped with the wedding budget and other things in our life, so we can't really afford to help pay for any of our family. We have decided that we will pay for our mothers if need be, everyone else has to find another ATM. lol
I'm at the point where if its just me and my FI, I'm good. I will probably be upset in the beginning about the family that act like they cant afford to go, and I know they can make a way. But I figured after the wedding, my new "family" will consist of me and my FI, and our new beginnings. And I will eventually get over it. And the family that decides not to come will have regrets because we will have a great time with or without them! Our wedding will be our special day and I am not letting anyone ruin it or stress me out. There's already enough stress planning :~)