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#11 shellk

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    Posted 18 October 2009 - 03:46 PM

    we was going to stay together and split the next morning but we have decided to split.my friend is coming to my room and he is going to their room with her husband,i just think it will add to the excitement the next day and you will be dying to see him.

    #12 Jennybell1

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      Posted 18 October 2009 - 04:07 PM

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      Originally Posted by diamondpooch
      Ya, we are going around and around about this as well. I suggested that my FI stay with his brother in law and his sister can come into my room, but I'm sure his sister and BIL have ONE bed, and I'm sure my FI doesn't want to sleep in that bed with another dude! So, I'm not sure. I think I will just think about it once we get there.
      Many of the resorts will give you a room the night prior to your wedding for your Fiance, if they have availability. So if that is something you want, I would check with the resort to see if its available free of charge. My resort provides it with my wedding pkg, not sure if all resorts do this though.

      Riley and I just spoke about this last night actually, and we decided that we were going to stay in the room together the night before the wedding. I think the main reason for that is bc we arent having a "traditional" wedding. Our wedding is going to be somewhat informal with a few traditions involved. I have been married once before and did the whole " spend your last night single alone" and it sucked. I couldnt sleep bc he wasnt there, let alone bc the wedding was the next day. I want to be with RIley the night before our wedding bc I feel that I want to be that close to him. We will separate in the morning and Im sure he will go to his BM's room to get ready while I get ready in our room. If your worried about where the BM's date is going to be, tell them to send her to your room to get ready or to a friends room. It will work itself out. I wouldnt worry about it. Your room will be jam packed with women trying to get ready themselves as well as helping you too.
      In the end, just do what you want to do. If you want the tradition of not seeing eachother until the wedding ceremony, then see how that can be accomodated by the hotel. If you dont want to be apart until the morning, then dont. In the end its your day and whatever the two of you want, then that is what you should do. I really dont think in this day in age, there is really any ettiquette on what you can and cant do anymore. Unless of course, your religion (if any) dictates so, or family values or morals, of course. DW's allow us to be flexible, if we wanted the fully traditional wedding then we wouldnt be getting married abroad. DW's are all about making your wedding day exactly what you want and how you want them with minimal planning, atleast in comparison to at home weddings.
      Have fun and go with your heart tells you. I find that always leads me down the right road.
      Good luck!

      #13 SandalGirl

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        Posted 18 October 2009 - 09:12 PM

        haha, my fiance and I disagree about this one. He wants to be traditional and stay somewhere else, and I know I won't sleep a lick between being all excited and it'll be even worse if he's not with me. We'll be sleeping together and parting ways after we wake up. I just need to inform him of this :)
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        #14 lily17bear

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          Posted 18 October 2009 - 09:22 PM

          I blelieve the resort would make arrangements for a separate room for my FI, but I remember reading so much about so many resorts I could be getting my information crossed. If anything, my family is very big on that tradition so he'll probably stay with cousins of mine.

          #15 diamondpooch

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            Posted 18 October 2009 - 10:32 PM

            Quote:
            Originally Posted by Jennybell1
            Many of the resorts will give you a room the night prior to your wedding for your Fiance, if they have availability. So if that is something you want, I would check with the resort to see if its available free of charge. My resort provides it with my wedding pkg, not sure if all resorts do this though.

            Riley and I just spoke about this last night actually, and we decided that we were going to stay in the room together the night before the wedding. I think the main reason for that is bc we arent having a "traditional" wedding. Our wedding is going to be somewhat informal with a few traditions involved. I have been married once before and did the whole " spend your last night single alone" and it sucked. I couldnt sleep bc he wasnt there, let alone bc the wedding was the next day. I want to be with RIley the night before our wedding bc I feel that I want to be that close to him. We will separate in the morning and Im sure he will go to his BM's room to get ready while I get ready in our room. If your worried about where the BM's date is going to be, tell them to send her to your room to get ready or to a friends room. It will work itself out. I wouldnt worry about it. Your room will be jam packed with women trying to get ready themselves as well as helping you too.
            In the end, just do what you want to do. If you want the tradition of not seeing eachother until the wedding ceremony, then see how that can be accomodated by the hotel. If you dont want to be apart until the morning, then dont. In the end its your day and whatever the two of you want, then that is what you should do. I really dont think in this day in age, there is really any ettiquette on what you can and cant do anymore. Unless of course, your religion (if any) dictates so, or family values or morals, of course. DW's allow us to be flexible, if we wanted the fully traditional wedding then we wouldnt be getting married abroad. DW's are all about making your wedding day exactly what you want and how you want them with minimal planning, atleast in comparison to at home weddings.
            Have fun and go with your heart tells you. I find that always leads me down the right road.
            Good luck!
            I can't picture myself losing that night with my FI either! I really think I will want to hold him tight and have it just be the two of us! Then we can wake up first thing and he can go to his BM's room and all the girls can come to me!

            Another thing I'm worried about is that I'm going to have too many girls and too much chaos in my room all morning and I have a feeling there may be a point where I want to just look out the window, drink my mimosa and be calm. My BM's and friends are pretty crazy and loud and I have a feeling I may be wanting to kick them all out at some point!

            #16 Meyer2010

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              Posted 19 October 2009 - 03:59 AM

              I discussed this with my FI and he wants to stay together and I want to stay apart. I think it will be more exciting when I see him at the ceremony. Plus, my sister is my MOH so I will ask her to stay with me and he will have her room since she is single. It all works out. But, I will check with the resort to see if they offer a "Groom Room" for the night before for free, if they do then I can kick him into that room for the night. ;-) Hee Hee!!

              But, yes I agree with the other girls, go with your heart on how you feel. Neither way is wrong or right!

              #17 jenninjamaica

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                Posted 19 October 2009 - 09:50 AM

                I'm still not sure what we will do, but I was wondering how people are interpreting this tradition. Are you just not sleeping together or not seeing each other until the ceremony? Our ceremony is at 4pm and it would be a long day trying to dodge my FI since our resort isn't THAT big!
                *~*JENN*~*

                #18 sarafish81

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                  Posted 19 October 2009 - 10:39 AM

                  My FI stayed with his brother-in-law and my MOH stayed with me. Brother-in-law was all over the "Bert and Ernie" beds idea as apparently his bed was actually 2 put together LOL I guess you have to know him!

                  #19 linzangel

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                    Posted 19 October 2009 - 10:40 AM

                    I am staying with my MOH, and he is staying with his Best Man

                    #20 Lady_Di

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                      Posted 19 October 2009 - 04:42 PM

                      i think we are going to stay in the same room the night before...i dont really believe in all of that superstitious stuff. i'm throwing out all traditions by having a DW!




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