Posted 06 October 2009 - 10:52 PM
It is definately not in line with etiquette to put ANYTHING on the invitation regarding gifts, even if it is to say 'no gifts'. However, I have never been really put off by an invitation that has said anything of it whether it was 'monetary gifts only' or 'no boxed gifts' or whatever. Some people have very valid reasons for it (i.e. moving away) and honestly I wouldn't want to have to deal with getting rid of a gift that I didn't want and then have the giver get upset when they found out that I did as much. And believe me, I do not like clutter so unless I have a use for it, I WILL get rid of it.
My sentiment is, I would never show up at a wedding without a gift anyway and I absolutely HATE gift buying so I appreciate the extra direction. If I felt put off for any reason or if I didn't feel comfortable giving the gift they were asking me for I would just not go to the wedding.
Unless I was being forced to go to the wedding by the bridegroom, I would NOT bring a tacky gift to spite (I think that in itself is tacky).
Finally, if I was the type to get put off by an invitation that requests a certain type of gift, then then I could not, in fairness, be the type to get upset if the bridegroom decides that my gift is not needed and tactfully gives it away or sells it.